Hypocrisy

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^This!

When I was younger I admitted to a few dates (not on the first date) that I am probably mildly autistic although not in any disabling way just that I am oblivious to social cues and can be very blunt without realizing it. Without fail I was immediately ghosted every time. What's really ironic is that one of those dates is probably about as aspie as you can get! You would think someone like that would understand.....

Hypocrite doesn't even begin to describe most people online though. How many times did I see an impossible laundry list that God himself couldn't fulfill from someone who was mediocre at best.

Yup. Online dating is a woman's market. Why settle for someone like yourself, when there are better "deals" out there (sarcasm)?

And this is from someone who did his hair in the morning as well as perfectly shaped his beard. Same message repeated but worded differently, stay rags not riches.

Moral of the day if you're on the spectrum or have any mental dysfunction you're loathed because you're impractical white trash or some outspoken prince without a brain; either that or you're some intolerable cynic like me.

I see. So for my point to be valid I have to be totally ugly and hate myself and other people as much as you do. Point taken.

There's more to public image than looks. It's persona and how people want to be perceived. I shower and shave. Big deal. If it makes you feel better I could carve putrid asymmetrical patterns into my beard. Would my point be more valid then?

When I wrote that, I was more on about how that person wanted to be perceived as a human being, not on how they looked physically. I don't know why I'm even explaining myself. You've already made it very clear you've based your entire opinion about me on my photo rather than the context of what I was saying in relation to the first post in the topic.

Finding the positives is harder than what it looks for someone battling a mental condition if the majority of their life is spent living inside a couple of walls while at the same time less able than the majority. Maybe no longer I can speak for anyone since I too am perhaps I'm drowning and you are the lifeguard, but I'm trying to be able to swim so that I don't drown again, and in my own view I believe everyone sooner or later is going to be thrown in the water. So you the lifeguard can you please acknowledge my actions as an attempt to be sympathetic? I apologize most of all for being antagonistic, which I doubt I can avoid in life. I'm a cynical nihilist to be a hopeful optimistic. I'm only trying to find myself on this forum. I hardly know the impacts shutting down profiles and removing profiles and removing friends has on the internet. I've been raised to believe that to set yourself apart from the internet was to help lead yourself to a more productive life. I believe otherwise based on example and I try to set myself apart from the examples of being what you just said to me.

My point of view is that none of us like being held in contempt for being what is it compared to being of the needy? Your argument in the end I learn from and try to apply to myself like all of the opposing arguments that follow, and what ends up happening is a constant cycle of trying to find out where to go in life ending up nowhere, because I'm in the way but your not.

Someone has to be happy despite how much we try to be happy for ourselves since there is someone in the way, and because of that, we end up living lives on disability checks. I'm conflicted with the image of being someone with a hand-me-down job and a disability check in the mail along with being a socially dysfunctional slob. Somehow I have to look past all of that to face my fear of failure.

Last edited by ZZZTired on 25 Apr 2018, 4:42 am, edited 2 times in total.

It's important to stick to your principles. You're doing that.
And you're right, no one can just keep admitting to being wrong, or not having a favourable view. At some point most people will have acquired enough experience and knowledge to firmly plant their feet and say "This is me. This is my take on life."

However, many don't get that far. They value what others think about them over what they themselves think. The result is like the profile the OP read. It bends to cognitive dissonance, and that person hasn't truly described who they are. They've over-sold themselves. They're not comfortable in their own skin, yet are compelled to indulge in a wretched train of thoughts. And why should they change?? Especially when it's mutually rewarded and enabled? No one has the guts to call each other out on hypocrisy these days, lest they be "shamed", and everyone's so morbidly alone that they'll accept someone who says they're a million things they're not anyway, just so that they can be liked or have a partner. Very few truly, honestly care about the gravity of words, or truth, or sticking to words. If they did, dating profiles would be a lot more accurate.

You edited your original post. To it I just want to say "you do you". If you're looking to find yourself here, you will...as long as you stay away from L&D

I couldn't agree more. It's like they're compensating for something.

Two types of people seem to do this. Those who are the opposite of the things they claim to be, and those who are the things they claim to be but have a lot of social misunderstandings that can cause them to become the opposite of the things they claim to be.

They tend to develop "entitled nice person syndrome".