How do guys explain being demisexual?

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Just tell her that you want it to be special, and you want to take things slow?

I've always worded it in a similar manner.

My guess is she's already cool about the taking things slow part or why would I have seen her lately at all?

It's good to know that can work out though.

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Just continue to do stuff together.

Hopefully I'll see her in a few weeks, there's a big hippie fest we're going to.

Do you think just being around is enough for this to progress naturally?

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-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

The answer is: a big "maybe."

Most of the time, the guy has to make some kind of "move" in a romantic direction.

What I usually done in the past is to kiss a lady's hand, and compliment her on how she looks.

All of which is why I'm here collecting such ideas.

Stripteases probably count.

I'm full of surprises! It's just that I still have to come up with more.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

This is so confuseing nowdays with all these therms for gender and sex. But isnt demisexual considered normal the oldschool ways?! Isnt it how it should be?! I mean now days with this hook up society i duno anymore i given up on love its to complicated lol.

I would consider myself as a romantic, not that you think the fairy tale kinda stuff i know it doesnt exsist. I cant feel sexually attracted to a person if i do not feel an emotional bond or his Inner personality is egoistic and careless. So iam i demisexual just because im not a hooker?

Im not a feminist nor gay but the heck all these therms are confuseing just do what you like honestly if its the right person itll work out and as long as none gets hurt i really dont care.

I get the same impression. I suppose with me it's somewhere between there & old fashioned, not that I'm at all conservative or whatever. I want to be more reciprocal & transparent.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

I think I'm demisexual, but I also feel there is a lot wrong with the concept. For instance, I don't see sexual attraction as part of it at all as I'm sexually attracted to women. I also I don't see being asexual as a complete lack of sexual attraction. The way it works for me is that I'm sexually attracted to women, but I don't want sexual intercourse with random women. So, I define myself as asexual as the default state. I've discovered that I can develop a desire for having regular sex if I have a spiritual connection with somebody (which is a lot more than just a close bond). Just having an attachment won't make me sexual. There has to be a spiritual connection.

So you'd say I should just make amends about my shyness?

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

That actually explains a lot. M'lady has a way of showing up when I least expect. Maybe I should stop using energy trying to make sense of all this & make more efforts to just go with it.

Thanks, I guess maybe it's impossible to screw up what's meant to be after all.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos