Do you use this forum for dating/hookup/romantic interests?

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Little suggests size, not age.

This is a big gay man:



This is a pretty little gay boy:



Can you spot the difference? Neither are young children. Both are adults. One is a big gay man colloquially referred to as a "Bear," the other a pretty little gay boy colloquially referred to as a "Twink."

The context suggested that I was, or would send some sort of sexually suggestive PM's to EzraS or others here. Why on God's green Earth would I do that here on a forum that isn't meant for that when I can open up and app & chat with any of the dozens/hundreds of gay boys online in close proximity to where I live? Muchos more convenient for either going to their place or inviting them to mine. Also an appropriate place for PM's of that subject matter considering it's a gay mens' app for 18+. This forum is for ASD related anything, not creeping on strangers 100's of miles away for some unknown assumptive objective ??

I'm quite aware of the difference myself.
I was thinking of other people here and contributing to the discussion of why people might get the wrong impression.

I don't remember that context.
You may be assuming there.
Ezra did not specify what the actual message content was, just to be leery of you.
That could mean anything.
Personally, I found your oversharing in that thread very creepy.
Just generally, people don't give out so much private information in course of conversation.
But I'm happy to know your bank balance.

Well, now whoever these people are who like to make assumptions about me have some SFW visuals of my reality vs. the things they make up in their own minds about me.

I'm an Uncle & Godfather several times over, and I raise money & awareness for Vancouver's youth homeless shelter - where like it is North America wide, 40% of homeless youth are LGBT and kicked out of their family homes for being so. I certainly don't creep on children. Further, hypothetically speaking, if I were that type - why in the world would I say a single word about it here? That'd just be downright stupid. I've used the phrase "pretty little gay boys," several times because it makes a whole lot more sense to heteronormative people than the colloquial word "Twink," that they probably wouldn't know unless they were in the gay community themselves or at least live in a large city with a gay presence. Pretty simple stuff.

Whoever is talking about me behind my back like this and suggesting that I have anything to do with child molestation or the like, you are the one(s) who's behaviour is disgusting. It's beyond rude to assume and say those things about people. If you have a legitimate question or concern about who I find sexually attractive and who I don't, feel free to post and ask, or send me a PM.. but to make WILD and crazy completely baseless assumptions about me and then message other forum members about them is just plain wrong. I don't want or need an apology from whoever you are. I want you to grow up and learn that gay != pedophile and that your assumptions, words, and actions are wrong and hurtful to people - so, stop doing those things. Thanks.

^ I don't think anyone is doing such things.
It was just an observation on the use of language when speaking to a very literal crowd.

Let me put this on record: I don't believe you're a child molester.

I just think you're overzealous about the treatment you propose for autism. That's it.

I don't think you would send a naked picture to Ezra---because you know he is under 18. You're not the type.

That would be an "indictable offence" in Canada, a felony in the United States.

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He asked what I was doing, suggested I wasn't being truthful, I was transparent about it. I have no problem with this.

*shrug* I'm happy to share it. I can tell you that 6 years ago I was $110K in debt and then bankrupt, too. When other forum members suggested I was boasting about money I clarified that there have been few times when I've made an above average wage, I've simply worked a lot, spent very little, and invested in things that increased in value. (mostly medical marijuana companies - in a tax free savings account, too, so it's cash money, no capital gains tax.) I was also transparent about why I shared these facts: because some are motivated by being able to work, earn, provide for themselves/others, and may be materialistic people, unlike myself, who desire fancy things they'd like to buy someday - and as I've said for years, I'm suggesting that people can in fact utilize medicine in order to function higher and be able to achieve these things in their lives as I have in mine. That's it that's all about that.

Many people have met people on WrongPlanet.

I know of at least one marriage to two members of WP.

This is definitely not a "hook-up" site. But you can make friends here. And you can even find a partner in here.

But finding a boyfriend/girlfriend should not be the primary purpose of one who signs up for WrongPlanet.

Exactly , that's the only reason I mentioned it. I thought I was offering helpful advice. But if GF knows best then GF can gf

Well that's good, I'm not.

You can think whatever you like about it. I've been doing for 5 years what Dr. Li and his research team hypothesized was possible 1 year ago. That's kind of a thing worthy of sharing with this community - but - this community doesn't know the things Dr. Li and his team know, so they call me rude names instead of learning from me. That's why I'm reading their study and figuring out how to contact each of them in order to share what I've learned and done in order to advance their work. People here aren't interested in their work, that's fine. It doesn't mean they're not going to do it and present their findings to the medical community.

Um, yeah, thanks for that.. I guess? I'm not going to send naked pictures ot EzraS or anyone else here. There's an app for that. It's called Grindr.

Goldfish is much more hedonistic than I am. He likes to party. I really don't like to party.

But I still think he's a decent guy (I can't quite get myself to call a guy a "dude"---probably a generational thing LOL).

I believe, to be really accepted here without question, that he has to mellow out a little.

Nothing wrong with talking about Dr. Li. Something wrong with admonishing someone who doesn't read Dr. Li.

I'm Canadian - it would be a criminal offence for me to do so anywhere in the world with an underage person. Our child sex laws are global. This is intended to prevent Canadians from participating in sex tourism in countries like (stereotype) Thailand & pursuing sex with underage people. Legal age of Consent in Canada was raised from 14 to 16 years old several years ago. Technically the legal age of consent for anal sex is different at 18, but that law has not been enforced for years and is slated to be abolished in order to not discriminate against young gay couples making their sexual relationships illegal whereas their straight counterparts have the legal authority to consent to sex at age 16. The only other time it's 18 in Canada is when someone is in a position of authority over a young person, like a teacher/coach/cop etc. Obviously whatever laws of the land in any other nation that have different age of consent laws apply if they're different/higher ages than here in Canada. Regardless, I don't hang out outside high schools and try my luck at seeing if maybe someone is legal aged or not. I chat with 20 somethings all the time, though. My age or older? Nope - not my type.

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I like to party a few times a year. My sex life doesn't revolve around going to night clubs or parties.. these are.. private parties for two. But yes, I am definitely much more hedonistic than most.

It's okay, dude, I don't mind if you don't refer to any dudes as dude.

I'm pretty mellow compared to some of the things I'd like to say here if I were a jerk.

I only became aware of Dr. Li a few days ago and have only begun reading one of his (I assume vs. her) studies. So far, this study is all about the science & medical things going on that support the experience I've had over the last 5-6 years. Some of the things are pretty much word for word confirmation of what I hypothesized 5+ years ago, others are new hypotheses by these research doctors about possible future treatments for ASD and I intend to contact them because the things they think might be able to be done in the future with these medicines are things that I have been doing for more than 5 years already and realizing the symptom relief & benefits of. So, I will find a way to contact them and share in order to help them to continue their research in that direction. These doctors know that a high % of ASD cases are intricately linked to the gut and have proof of it, most people here still don't believe that. That's all I meant.

EzraS posted and said that others had PM'd him and told him to be leery of me. The context of the conversation suggested that it was to be leery of me in a sexual nature.

I've used the phrase "pretty little gay boys," several times because it makes a whole lot more sense to heteronormative people than the colloquial word "Twink," that they probably wouldn't know unless they were in the gay community themselves or at least live in a large city with a gay presence.

Perhaps in future add the word 'types' so that you have "pretty little gay boy types" (?) ~ rather than aversion and defamation of character glitches, and all that.

As far as using any websites for dating purposes though ~ I am one of those when it happens and only when it happens types.