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ehymw
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07 Jul 2018, 6:27 pm

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Didn't you have a girlfriend already?


I had one.

She sexted with her x and now we're considering just being friends.....with benefits.

That confuses me. The "I had one" part makes me think that you two broke up, but the "we're considering" makes me unsure. Are you still technically together?


I don't want to be without a girlfriend but her sexting another guy is kind of a deal breaker.

I'm not sure if the new girl is right for me and I also kinda feel sorry for the other one.

The first girl was the one who suggested maybe we should just be friends with benefits. :?

If it is a deal breaker, break up. You can't just date other girls while you have a girlfriend until they accept to be your new girlfriend and then you dump the old one, it's very wrong against both girls. Also it can really ruin your relationship with the new one.
You should first clean up the mess with your girlfriend and only then consider going out with other girls and having sex with them.
Moreover keep in mind that when and if you become exclusives with the new girl, you can't keep the fwb relationship with the old one.


Just to be clear I didn't have sex with the first one though we enjoyed intimacy and I'm not planning to have sex with the new one any time soon.

New one may get sick of me on the second date and the first one lives an HOUR drive away.

I'm thinking I should plan date 2 with the new girl tomorrow and if she's interested try to be kind when I end it with the other girl.

I am sorry but this, if it is true, doesn't really make it any better. My advice still stands and it's the only correct way to behave in this situation, otherwise you're fooling them both.


If it's worth anything I told the first girl about the new one before the latter and I went on a date.

You sound right though.

If the second one wants to go on a second date I should wrap it up with the first girl.

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Your girlfriend knows that you're seeing other girls and is fine with it? I didn't see it coming, maybe she sees the relationship as dead already and/or is thinking about someone else too. :?
Actually I didn't mention it because it seemed so weird but another correct way to behave would be to tell them both how things are with the other girl and see if they accept the situation. I wouldn't really recommend it or like it myself, though.


First one seems to want to be FWB with me and her x who lives multiple states away.

SMH if she's that clueless this relationship can't really last....can it?



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07 Jul 2018, 6:45 pm

ehymw wrote:
SMH if she's that clueless this relationship can't really last....can it?

Sorry but I do not really understand the logic of someone who doesn't have sex with you while you are in a relationship and proposes a friendship with benefits when the relationship is dying, I am really not sure how to give advice on this.
Maybe she wants to have you stringed until she gets back with her ex, like you wanted to do with the new girl too? I have no idea, I don't understand your girlfriend and I can only make an uneducated and probably wrong guess, please don't give it more credit than it deserves.



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07 Jul 2018, 7:42 pm

I can’t believe you’re not ending it until you find a replacement. Wow. There are very few people who would find that sort of behaviour acceptable.

Does the first woman know you’re dating other people?



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15 Jul 2018, 2:59 pm

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I can’t believe you’re not ending it until you find a replacement. Wow. There are very few people who would find that sort of behaviour acceptable.

Does the first woman know you’re dating other people?


It's not my fault I found someone else right as the relationship was ending.

And yes the first one knows I've moved on.

We still talk.