Younger Men

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Maybe a woman in her late 40s would want a younger man like in his 30s, but what if he thinks you too old for him.

I wonder since I can have crushes on guys that are younger & I really don’t feel my age, I don’t act & think like a 48 year old woman & I also look very young. Is that an Aspergers thing? Wanting a much younger man. I feel like I’m in my late 20s still. When I was in high school, when I was a sophomore, I had a major crush on a freshman, I was 2 or 3 years older than him, I started school late. My first boyfriend was 2 years younger than me, that relationship only lasted 4 months.

It depends on the individual Kitty. Plenty of guys are into older women, plenty are into younger and even still some into younger and older. To put it bluntly, ask yourself would the term cougar exist if some younger guys weren't into older women?

2 people that are attracted to each other. Age should not matter if both people are consenting adults. It should not be regarded as taboo for an older woman to date a young man. More women are dating younger men, they have more freedom.

Why men can be interest in older women? It is because older women are mature & have more sexual experiences?

It’s usually because there’s a sort of motherly, soothing thing about the older woman.....or it could be she’s perceived as sexually experienced.

Those are the reasons I was not interested in older women & preferred younger women instead. Well that & the fact that I'm extremely protective of women I love.

I’m not a mother, I’m a mother to a cat. What do you mean ‘soothing thing about the older woman?’ And I don’t have sexual experience.

Could it not be a reasonable assumption someone could make about you if they have yet had an opportunity to get to know you on a personal level? The vast majority of older women would have had sexual experiences, your situation is a minority expectation, it just wouldn't be a common thing someone would expect. Another reasonable assumption someone might also make about you would be that you could be a mother, motherly love is soothing to the soul. That is to say, an older woman may remind them of a loving motherly figure.

I said she can be "perceived" as having sexual experience. I never said an older woman HAS sexual experience.

One doesn't have to be a mother in order to be motherly.....

How can a woman be motherly to a younger boyfriend? Then I would not want him, I don’t want to be like a mother figure to him.

You don’t have to be a motherly figure. Only some younger guys want that.

There are those men who pretty much want someone who can fill the roles of BOTH mother and lover. I find that a bit icky, personally. But to each his own. Personally, I'm more attracted to older women for the maturity aspect. The whole "been there, done that" mentality. Someone who isn't argumentative for the sake of being argumentative, but who actually has deeper thoughts and can challenge me. Older women tend to know what they want and are less patient with games.

That certainly doesn't apply to all older women, of course. Those are just a few qualities of older women that I find attractive. It doesn't mean we can't be playful, doesn't mean we always have to "act our age." But I do think that even if you're just a big 12-year old in a 50-year old bod, the years still bring substance with them whether you admit it or not. You really start to see that with women about my age and older.

I'm also attracted to women who like to take charge, take initiative in the relationship. I much more prefer women who know what they want and are direct about it. I don't mind looking at older women as challenging territory to be conquered if that's what they want. Some women are into that, and that's fine. It's just I prefer being the one "taken." I've only seriously dated one girl who was up for the task, but she was NOT older than me and that relationship disintegrated for a number of reasons. I think part of my problem is I'm only TOO willing. lol So it's not really much of a game. Could still be fun, though...

hmmmmmm, maybe you're getting older and this is your way of subconsciously regaining/retaining your youth.
and/or maybe, physically you are "old" but mentally, socially and emotionally you are 10 years younger so you're just getting in the things that these youngsters are into that you should have gotten out of your system a long time ago. (Gasps)

OR maybe you just like deez young boys

I commend Kitty for being into younger, more immature men. If you google immature men you will mostly find disdain and suggestions how to avoid them.

Kitty, I think the important thing to take away from this discussion is your age does not exclude you from finding older or younger people that will be attracted to you.

My Aspergers makes me mentally very young,I cannot act my age, I feel nowhere near my late 40s, I feel like I’m in my late 20s or early 30s. And I look very young. At the healthcare, some people thought I was younger, the physical therapist that worked with me the most, that the guy I got a crush on, I never thought I get a crush on my former physical therapist, the guy is 29 We were friends too, we had things in common like music.