She’s trying to get over me.

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DevilMayAsian
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20 Nov 2018, 7:44 am

She effectively took a lot of different things away from me, for example Sabers, the friends I had there, and the group chat on Facebook that I was apart of. Can’t believe a good and close friend can kick you out of their life and the stuff they’re involved in so easily. I haven’t been any social media since it happened, I don’t know if I’m still in the group chat or anything. I actually deleted all those apps off my phone, once it happened. Events like this tend to happen a lot to me.

As soon as we became friends, I was thinking “I wonder how long this is going to last, maybe a few months.” I know that’s pessimistic but that is my reality. Like I said this stuff tends to happen to me a lot. I’m on square one in so many different ways, I don’t want to think about it. Who knows how many years it’ll take before I get a friend like that again. Most of the time, when I meet someone that I see potential as friends, they don’t want to be friends. Or I think we’re friends and they say “We’re not friends.” Another thing they is they tend exclude me from things. That is why I so reluctant to try to make friends with her.

Yes, I’ve been hurt by this pretty bad. I haven’t been ok since it happened. I knew this was going to happen sooner or later. I can’t stress this enough, it’s just the way it is for me and I can’t do anything to change it

I didn’t like how her counselor handled this situation by the fact that the counselor didn’t say what happened to cause Meagan to do that.



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20 Nov 2018, 7:49 am

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... I was very good friends with my ex then all of a sudden he didn't want any further contact...
:lol: Heh. My ex continued to entertain our mutual "friends" until I moved out of the country and stopped having contact with any of them. Then she dropped them, too. She only wanted to keep those people around as long as they provided her with intelligence on what I said, what I did, who I was with, and so forth.


That's awful, she sounds very controlling. You're better off now!



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20 Nov 2018, 8:22 am

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She effectively took a lot of different things away from me, for example Sabers, the friends I had there, and the group chat on Facebook that I was apart of. Can’t believe a good and close friend can kick you out of their life and the stuff they’re involved in so easily. I haven’t been any social media since it happened, I don’t know if I’m still in the group chat or anything. I actually deleted all those apps off my phone, once it happened. Events like this tend to happen a lot to me.

As soon as we became friends, I was thinking “I wonder how long this is going to last, maybe a few months.” I know that’s pessimistic but that is my reality. Like I said this stuff tends to happen to me a lot. I’m on square one in so many different ways, I don’t want to think about it. Who knows how many years it’ll take before I get a friend like that again. Most of the time, when I meet someone that I see potential as friends, they don’t want to be friends. Or I think we’re friends and they say “We’re not friends.” Another thing they is they tend exclude me from things. That is why I so reluctant to try to make friends with her.

Yes, I’ve been hurt by this pretty bad. I haven’t been ok since it happened. I knew this was going to happen sooner or later. I can’t stress this enough, it’s just the way it is for me and I can’t do anything to change it

I didn’t like how her counselor handled this situation by the fact that the counselor didn’t say what happened to cause Meagan to do that.



The fact she has a counselor probably means she has crazy issues.



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20 Nov 2018, 8:51 am

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... I was very good friends with my ex then all of a sudden he didn't want any further contact...
:lol: Heh. My ex continued to entertain our mutual "friends" until I moved out of the country and stopped having contact with any of them. Then she dropped them, too. She only wanted to keep those people around as long as they provided her with intelligence on what I said, what I did, who I was with, and so forth.
That's awful, she sounds very controlling. You're better off now!
I most certainly am!

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20 Nov 2018, 10:57 am

They spell it as “Filipina” with F.

Or Pinoy.



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20 Nov 2018, 11:01 am

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They spell it as “Filipina” with F. Or Pinoy.
"Pinay" for filipinas. I'm typing for an English-speaking audience, so ang pag-type sa tagalog ay maaaring hindi angkop, 'ndiba?



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20 Nov 2018, 11:07 am

Ever tried their rice muffins? I guess it's called Puto.



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20 Nov 2018, 12:40 pm

She does have issues, that was supposedly her last appointment with her. She just wanted out of therapy badly, she use to call it heck.

I have crazy issues as well, everything thinks I’m insane. I have no problem with that. I do see a psychologist for four years now. I still think I need that kind of help.



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20 Nov 2018, 2:17 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ever tried their rice muffins? I guess it's called Puto.
Puto is a small cake made of steamed ground rice. Some add shredded coconut. I like mine plain, with just a little butter and salt.

But, SORRY FOR THE DERAIL. Back to the topic...



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21 Nov 2018, 7:11 am

Fnord wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ever tried their rice muffins? I guess it's called Puto.
Puto is a small cake made of steamed ground rice. Some add shredded coconut. I like mine plain, with just a little butter and salt.

But, SORRY FOR THE DERAIL. Back to the topic...



I think you should dedicate a thread on the politeness of the Filipino dating/relationship/social culture, and how other cultures should really learn from them.



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21 Nov 2018, 3:59 pm

superaliengirl wrote:
It's best to break all contact with an ex anyway especially if you ever wanna meet someone new and get serious with them. If she's trying to get over you she might still have feelings in which case it's a really good idea for her to break contact with you and you should respect her wanting to do so if you really care for her.


To avoid derailing this thread, I've replied in the separate new thread The "no contact" thing in today's American culture.


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