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I mostly meant I'm very reserved. I would have to find a lot of common ground before making any further plans with anyone I just met.

I would rather meet women through women than at random. I'm not very trusting but I'm moreso towards women, particularly those who managed to befriend me.

I'm at work for now so I'll have to get back to you in greater detail - I'm definitely not really 'on the market' since that's your main question.

I'm also wrestling with a number of medical issues that likely relate to my ASD & I have no clue how to talk about that in person, much less in this context.

Here's a thought: perhaps people are tired of you posting about the same stuff all the time. You know, like complaining about women not wanting to date you? All you're doing is beating a dead horse.

Did I say one word of complaint directly to you? To any women? Did I ever once generalize women at all? No.

If you're posting hateful stuff regarding guys' emotions, well that's just lame on your part. I for one feel ignored & for lack of a better word, hated.

I'm just being honest.

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For what it's worth I love women as a rule but that's not of consequence to anyone. No one gives a damn if a guy like me says he's sad.

I guess I'm as worthless as my thread. Mods please do as you will.

Also someone just kill me. Is 50,000USD enough?

Do you actually expect your choice in guys to lie about how he feels to please you?

Would you say that to a person with cancer who complains about their cancer?

Autistics are repeative. People here are constantly complaining about something. If not this site would be even more dead then it currently is.

Stardust Parade did manage to show me it's not worth it anyway.

Sexist stereotypes about guys having no feelings already won. I'm going to STFU & GTFO.

I forgive Stardust Parade because to do otherwise would just be sh***y.

I also said nothing about dating anyway, I was only writing about how I feel.

Discarded, mostly.

People usually hate what I have to say. This was painful but unsurprising.

I guess a guy can either care too much or act like any of those hundred million clones on Tinder.

Most people won't give me the time of day, much less hug me. Normal standards of conduct just fail to apply when you've been raised in a system that expects you to care about machines more than a good friend.

Nobody is perfect, neither is she & that's cool by me.

What I was trying to find out in asking questions is whether or not you're actively doing things to try to meet women and being unsuccessful over and over.

It holds true for anything from romance, to desiring gainful employment, a better job, a better place to live, weight loss, better health, education, proficiency in something, etc.

Velleity: a wish or inclination not strong enough to lead to action.

I've been guilty of velleity myself.

For any of us, if we lament a seemingly perpetual predicament but don't try to change, others view the behavior as whining.

You are probably confusing him with another member because I don’t remember this pattern in cberg, his threads were more about this person he cares about.

But it’s probably another sexist assumption you made, there was this Hollywood_guy who said something very true once, I forgot the exact wording but he said: Whenever a guy complains about love, is quickly judged as a whiner and entitled.

Also I wanna say to you and to ALL those who are bothered by the constant complaining of these guys: You can simply skip their threads. Simple.

It's a good relationship advice, however. Try complain as little as possible. Women hate that.

But sadly it does make it nearly impossible to get dating advice for men.

Well, obviously these guys aren’t interested to date women on WP, since they are far, Aspies are few and too geographically scattered.

If some single women here see complaining as too unmanly, fine, they can use Tinder.

This is why I keep saying that WP needs a section for men, to discuss man things in the context of a mens forum...

Cberg this low will pass eventually, til then based on your online disposition i think you do have the strength to ride out this wave, like you have before... are you doing any meditation lately?

I don't think this is the real issue.

What is the real issue, what context am i missing?

The thing about CBerg and many guys here: they are intelligent guys, and not hard on the eyes, either.

I honestly feel many guys place double-binds upon themselves based upon spurious evidence.

This is especially true of the “evidence” obtained through interactions on online dating sites.