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I was wondering if he hoped/planned to stay at your place to save on lodging costs. That puts a lot of pressure on you. This is probably something good to talk about in advance of his arriving.

Fluffy and Bea are giving very good advice. If money will be tight maybe his visit will have to be a bit shorter.

Hi Kitty,
if he's British and you're in the USA as I understand what you've said, then don't stress about customs and immigration. It's a walk in the park.

Airbnb is a site which offers accommodation, not in hotels but in private homes for short term rentals. You can have the property all to yourself, it is typically about 60% of the price of a hotel room in my experience, and it's great picking the location. It's very safe and is a large company that has operated around the world for many years.
Check it out by visiting airbnb.com and picking your location to see what's on offer, you'll be glad you did

It's true. Lodging becomes very expensive once you spend more than a week vacationing/visiting.

Airbrb would probably be a good choice in this instance.

Be aware of signs that this guy will want to establish "lodgings" with you. He might say something like "I'm your boyfriend; why shouldn't I stay in your home?"

If this man is an international business traveller he will know what airbnb is, he will know the rules of conducting short-term business in other countries, and he will know the costs associated with a month away from home. I have to be honest, it seems curious to me that he wants to spend an entire month meeting you and not working. I would think that a first visit might be for a week, maximum, to get to know you. He's giving up a month of work for someone he's never met. Is this his whole year's holiday time?

If he can't afford to visit for the length of time he proposes and pay for his accommodation (not in your home), his food (you will not be supplying it), his transportation (likely Uber / Lyft or car rental), his entertainment (some of it will include outings with you), or if he doesn't already have a return ticket home which he can show you via internet before arriving, I'd be very leery.

It's nothing against the person but if he can't afford to visit you while respecting your space and personal safety (by staying on his own and paying his own way), then your relationship will be difficult to maintain. Don't forget, assuming you like each other he will need to afford many trips to visit you. I don't think you are in a position to visit him in the UK.

I thought he was spending the month of March in California. Was his trip postponed?

Another thing kitty,
Your boyfriend will need to provide US customs with the full address of where he will be staying in California. That address is used to track him and keep him accountable for departure. I highly recommend that you do not give him your personal address or allow him to use your address at customs. You don't want to be 'responsible' for him on federal documentation.

He can provide the address of the hotel or airbnb where he will be staying. I flew to the US in January and stayed at an airbnb. I had no problem using an airbnb address at customs, or saying I would be staying at an airbnb. This is valid.

I hope he doesn't know your address at all, so he can't use it at customs without your permission.

I doubt that he's coming to California to work----I just don't sense it.