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16 May 2019, 5:22 am

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If ordinary clothing is not feminine enough, I am pretty sure that many boys would agree to dress in a more feminine fashion, if that was their gf's wish (I would do myself). They may need some advice in dressing though.
My girlfriend wants me to wear a dress or skirt 1ce in a while but I've always refused. I went through a transvestic fetishism phase in my teens which caused me to question my own gender for many years & I don't wanna go back there.


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16 May 2019, 5:30 am

It would be like finding a needle in haystack.

<-- or in my fur.



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16 May 2019, 5:36 am

The kind of women I like don’t exist.


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16 May 2019, 6:07 am

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The kind of women I like don’t exist.


The kind of men I like do exist they're just out of my league. Maybe not if I continue hanging out with arty types rather than with nerds.

I'm not even talking about transvestism, guys just reach the ultimate extremes.

I'm happy being single anyway.


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16 May 2019, 7:54 am

But why don't you keep dating women instead? In your case it seems easier.



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16 May 2019, 7:59 am

That's what I do it's just that I can't lie to myself and say I'm gay when I'm bi.

Probably just being a pedant. A lot of guys have guys they'd 'go gay for' or women have women they'd 'go lesbian for'. I just have some guys I'd 'go straight for'.


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16 May 2019, 8:10 am

So do guys fill ...I mean fulfill you sexually in a way that women can't?



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16 May 2019, 12:04 pm

No. It's basically just - I can tell when guys are hot. I've not had or wanted PIV.

I assume lesbians/straight guys can't tell when men are hot.


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16 May 2019, 12:15 pm

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No. It's basically just - I can tell when guys are hot. I've not had or wanted PIV.

I assume lesbians/straight guys can't tell when men are hot.


Yes we can tell.

Like how straight women can tell when women are hot.



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16 May 2019, 1:02 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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No. It's basically just - I can tell when guys are hot. I've not had or wanted PIV.

I assume lesbians/straight guys can't tell when men are hot.


Yes we can tell.

Like how straight women can tell when women are hot.


Yeah I have no desire to be with Chris Hemsworth, but I definitely wish I looked like him.


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16 May 2019, 1:29 pm

Antrax wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
KT67 wrote:
No. It's basically just - I can tell when guys are hot. I've not had or wanted PIV.

I assume lesbians/straight guys can't tell when men are hot.


Yes we can tell.

Like how straight women can tell when women are hot.


Yeah I have no desire to be with Chris Hemsworth, but I definitely wish I looked like him.


Yes, straight folks don't live in a bubble, we can see what the opposite sex drool for, in the media and in real life.

And I believe even our human instinct can tell.

So yeah, we have a pretty solid idea what is considered a hot man and who isn't.



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16 May 2019, 4:13 pm

KT67 wrote:
The kind of men I like do exist they're just out of my league. Maybe not if I continue hanging out with arty types rather than with nerds.


I think you want guys confident enough to express their feminine side, perhaps dressing in high heels. Confidence is sexy for any gender. But you have to be really good at what you do if you want to stay employed and do that.



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17 May 2019, 5:09 am

When I was about 28 I met this girl who had just graduated from an American "small college" (she was 7 years younger than I). I don't know why she asked me out but it may have been that she thought there was some business advantage (she had just started as a salesperson for a company that sold to the company my father worked for).

On our date, she assumed the male role from the beginning. I didn't know what to think, I suppose she seemed a bit butch but was dressed in feminine clothes and of course was quite young and girlish. To be specific this included helping me with my coat, holding doors for me etc. We went back to her house (she was renting a small house in a generally low-income area) and she preceded to make out with me including aggressive tongue kissing in which she "took the lead" so to speak.

I was quite frankly very turned on by all this and certainly wanted another date, but she had no further interest. I did actually see her once again in person during which encounter she dropped me a lot of hints that she was in fact a lesbian.

I don't know what motivated her to try her little experiment, but had she wanted to continue with more dates I would have been happy to go along. In fact I was very turned on. When I read your OP I couldn't help thinking of that incident. Not sure if it actually helps you or accurately addresses your point, but don't assume straight guys won't want to accept a feminine role in a dating relationship, in fact for some it could be a HUGE turn-on (even if there's nothing whatsoever effeminate about their general demeanor).

Hope this might help!


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17 May 2019, 6:08 am

MaxE wrote:
When I was about 28 I met this girl who had just graduated from an American "small college" (she was 7 years younger than I). I don't know why she asked me out but it may have been that she thought there was some business advantage (she had just started as a salesperson for a company that sold to the company my father worked for).

On our date, she assumed the male role from the beginning. I didn't know what to think, I suppose she seemed a bit butch but was dressed in feminine clothes and of course was quite young and girlish. To be specific this included helping me with my coat, holding doors for me etc. We went back to her house (she was renting a small house in a generally low-income area) and she preceded to make out with me including aggressive tongue kissing in which she "took the lead" so to speak.

I was quite frankly very turned on by all this and certainly wanted another date, but she had no further interest. I did actually see her once again in person during which encounter she dropped me a lot of hints that she was in fact a lesbian.

I don't know what motivated her to try her little experiment, but had she wanted to continue with more dates I would have been happy to go along. In fact I was very turned on. When I read your OP I couldn't help thinking of that incident. Not sure if it actually helps you or accurately addresses your point, but don't assume straight guys won't want to accept a feminine role in a dating relationship, in fact for some it could be a HUGE turn-on (even if there's nothing whatsoever effeminate about their general demeanor).

Hope this might help!
This reminds me of my 2nd girlfriend. She was sorta a transexual wannabe. She was unhappy being a woman but wasn't transitioning or anything. She was kinda butch. She was the one in charge in our relationship even thou she was 9 years younger than me. Part of the reason she was interested in me is cuz I don't conform to the stereotypical guy image. I'm kinda passive, demisexual(I like sex OK but only interested in doing it with someone I really love & I don't need sex in a relationship), I'm very affectionate, sympathetic of women issues(or at least try to be), some people thought I was gay, I hate sports, & this is just off the top of my head. After she broke up with me she decided she was more interested in dating women cuz she thought it'll be easier. She was pansexual.


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17 May 2019, 10:03 am

MaxE wrote:
When I was about 28 I met this girl who had just graduated from an American "small college" (she was 7 years younger than I). I don't know why she asked me out but it may have been that she thought there was some business advantage (she had just started as a salesperson for a company that sold to the company my father worked for).

On our date, she assumed the male role from the beginning. I didn't know what to think, I suppose she seemed a bit butch but was dressed in feminine clothes and of course was quite young and girlish. To be specific this included helping me with my coat, holding doors for me etc. We went back to her house (she was renting a small house in a generally low-income area) and she preceded to make out with me including aggressive tongue kissing in which she "took the lead" so to speak.

I was quite frankly very turned on by all this and certainly wanted another date, but she had no further interest. I did actually see her once again in person during which encounter she dropped me a lot of hints that she was in fact a lesbian.

I don't know what motivated her to try her little experiment, but had she wanted to continue with more dates I would have been happy to go along. In fact I was very turned on. When I read your OP I couldn't help thinking of that incident. Not sure if it actually helps you or accurately addresses your point, but don't assume straight guys won't want to accept a feminine role in a dating relationship, in fact for some it could be a HUGE turn-on (even if there's nothing whatsoever effeminate about their general demeanor).

Hope this might help!

But then it depends on how you're defining masculine and feminine. If you're specifically talking about the initiation of a relationship/intimate acts, etc, then I think many guys and especially those who have little success with women would appreciate a woman who took that initiative, but if you're talking about being effeminate, and generally accepting a feminine/submissive role in the relationship, and being with a woman who is masculine both in appearance and disposition, I don't think there'd be many guys who would go for that, especially if say there's so much of an inversion of roles that the man is expected to receive penetration from a strap-on during sex for instance.

OP's target demographic is probably "soy boys".