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27 May 2019, 4:46 pm

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Two guys you like want to date you, ones fit and thin, other is fat . Which would you choose?


I might not want to choose either of them. Just because they want to date me, doesn't mean I have to pick. If I did feel compelled to choose, I would choose the person I was more compatible with. I have no problem with big guys or overweight guys. In fact, I prefer it ... although I wouldn't choose a partner based on size alone.

They theory is they are both equally compatible ie the on,y difference is their sizes.
I’d pick a thin woman.


I'd pick the bigger guy. I like tummies.


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27 May 2019, 4:49 pm

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I had one boyfriend with an 8 pack, but I didn’t know he had abs like that until after we’d been dating awhile.

Unless you enjoy working out, I don’t think it’s worth the effort. Most women don’t care that much about it.

Most people won’t date fast people. Fat =loser= no date.


The majority of Americans are overweight or obese.

My area isn’t . I’d say 90% of women here are thin.
Anyways I’ve seen women bigger then me demand a thin guy , they won’t date fat guys. “Must be thin and athletic” but they are as big as me or 3 times bigger then me.
I’m chubby thanks to being 6’4”. Still too fat for most women in my area.

Fact is most peoples dream March is thin, neither men or women fantasize about fat men and women, fat women and men are barely represented in porn, modeling, acting.
When they are in acting they always made fun of and pathetic losers, while thin people are pretreated as wonderful successful people.

Two guys you like want to date you, ones fit and thin, other is fat . Which would you choose?


Neither if that’s all I know about them.

I like nice guys.

I know from experience that a guy that’s considered to be a “heartthrob” is not necessarily going to be a nice guy.


Let me rephrase you like both equally and they are similar compatible the only deference is one is thin and fit and is fat.
Be honest you’d choose the thin, fit and Heathy one.

As for nice, I’ve been told over and over by women even here on wp, thwt nice is a basics human trait there every man can have, so it’s nit a positive trait for dating it’s just being a decent human. So that mean heartthrob can be changed to be nice.
And so I’m told I have have no positive traits and nothing to offer.


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27 May 2019, 4:52 pm

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Two guys you like want to date you, ones fit and thin, other is fat . Which would you choose?


I might not want to choose either of them. Just because they want to date me, doesn't mean I have to pick. If I did feel compelled to choose, I would choose the person I was more compatible with. I have no problem with big guys or overweight guys. In fact, I prefer it ... although I wouldn't choose a partner based on size alone.

They theory is they are both equally compatible ie the on,y difference is their sizes.
I’d pick a thin woman.


I'd pick the bigger guy. I like tummies.

You must understand your in the minority though?
Humans were meant to be thin, thin is best chance of survival so humans prefer thin mates. Go back thousand years ago, fat people died thin people lived.
I couldn’t outrun a tiger


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27 May 2019, 4:54 pm

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Two guys you like want to date you, ones fit and thin, other is fat . Which would you choose?


I might not want to choose either of them. Just because they want to date me, doesn't mean I have to pick. If I did feel compelled to choose, I would choose the person I was more compatible with. I have no problem with big guys or overweight guys. In fact, I prefer it ... although I wouldn't choose a partner based on size alone.

They theory is they are both equally compatible ie the on,y difference is their sizes.
I’d pick a thin woman.


I'd pick the bigger guy. I like tummies.

You must understand your in the minority though?
Humans were meant to be thin, thin is best chance of survival so humans prefer thin mates. Go back thousand years ago, fat people died thin people lived.
I couldn’t outrun a tiger


I couldn't sleep on a washboard. 8)


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27 May 2019, 4:56 pm

Thin people can’t outrun a tiger, either.

That’s the whole point. Man had to evolve smarts.



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27 May 2019, 4:57 pm

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I had one boyfriend with an 8 pack, but I didn’t know he had abs like that until after we’d been dating awhile.

Unless you enjoy working out, I don’t think it’s worth the effort. Most women don’t care that much about it.

Most people won’t date fast people. Fat =loser= no date.


The majority of Americans are overweight or obese.

My area isn’t . I’d say 90% of women here are thin.
Anyways I’ve seen women bigger then me demand a thin guy , they won’t date fat guys. “Must be thin and athletic” but they are as big as me or 3 times bigger then me.
I’m chubby thanks to being 6’4”. Still too fat for most women in my area.

Fact is most peoples dream March is thin, neither men or women fantasize about fat men and women, fat women and men are barely represented in porn, modeling, acting.
When they are in acting they always made fun of and pathetic losers, while thin people are pretreated as wonderful successful people.

Two guys you like want to date you, ones fit and thin, other is fat . Which would you choose?


Neither if that’s all I know about them.

I like nice guys.

I know from experience that a guy that’s considered to be a “heartthrob” is not necessarily going to be a nice guy.


Let me rephrase you like both equally and they are similar compatible the only deference is one is thin and fit and is fat.
Be honest you’d choose the thin, fit and Heathy one.

As for nice, I’ve been told over and over by women even here on wp, thwt nice is a basics human trait there every man can have, so it’s nit a positive trait for dating it’s just being a decent human. So that mean heartthrob can be changed to be nice.
And so I’m told I have have no positive traits and nothing to offer.


I don’t have a lot of relationship experience. My longest relationship was not with a decent human. I consider niceness a very desirable trait. If a guy isn’t nice, he isn’t likely to change.

You have lots of positive traits. You are nice and have a romantic side.

Actually, there was a time in my teen years when I had a choice between a fit guy and a large guy (who was much larger than you), and I chose the large guy. I was thin at the time. Now I’m somewhat overweight but not obese.

There’s much more to a person besides appearances.



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27 May 2019, 5:26 pm

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Thin people can’t outrun a tiger, either.

That’s the whole point. Man had to evolve smarts.

They’d have a better chance at it. It’s not like the tiger is chasing you on a flat highway.
I couldn’t get away from anything or anyone o can’t run for more then min or two. While the average non athletic thin person can run a mile in 15 mins.
Thin people are better at surviving you don’t see fat survivalist or outdoorsmen.


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27 May 2019, 5:34 pm

You can change that....you can start by walking at 3 mph for a mile. Then, the next week, try that pace for two miles. That’s 20 minutes per mile. Use your phone as a stopwatch. I’m sure you can do a mile in 20 minutes.

I can walk a mile in 15 minutes...with a bad knee. I can do that for six miles. I’m 58 years old.



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27 May 2019, 5:34 pm

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Thin people can’t outrun a tiger, either.

That’s the whole point. Man had to evolve smarts.

They’d have a better chance at it. It’s not like the tiger is chasing you on a flat highway.
I couldn’t get away from anything or anyone o can’t run for more then min or two. While the average non athletic thin person can run a mile in 15 mins.
Thin people are better at surviving you don’t see fat survivalist or outdoorsmen.


Big cats run very, very fast and are more agile through dense brush than people are. We should all avoid run ins with such animals unless it’s seeing them through an enclosure at the zoo.

We cover a lot of important life hacks on WP.



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27 May 2019, 5:36 pm

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I don’t have a lot of relationship experience. My longest relationship was not with a decent human. I consider niceness a very desirable trait. If a guy isn’t nice, he isn’t likely to change.

You have lots of positive traits. You are nice and have a romantic side.

Actually, there was a time in my teen years when I had a choice between a fit guy and a large guy (who was much larger than you), and I chose the large guy. I was thin at the time. Now I’m somewhat overweight but not obese.

There’s much more to a person besides appearances.


You loads more then me.
But would you date a guy who only good trait is he’s nice?
Or seek a guy with his life together and is also nice?
A lot of women think men can change or that they can change men. It’s a common complain or saying by a lot of women. “But he can change, or but I can change him.
It you take that approach then they can find a a**hole abusive guy wit the traits they desire and fit and just change hi to be more nice, easier the. Taking a guy who’s only positives are being nice and romantic and building him into the kind of guy they desire. Especially in my case where due to being disabled they’d never be able to build me into a successful guy. I’ve heard it as the reason for divorces and abusive spouses. “ I thought I could change him”

Lots of guys are nice and romantic though. I don’t have any talent, I don’t have a good income, I have nothing to offer as women on wp always point out to me.

Yes but attractiveness is important in relationships otherwise it’s just a friendship.
I couldn’t be romantic or sexual with a woman I don’t find attractive.


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27 May 2019, 5:41 pm

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You can change that....you can start by walking at 3 mph for a mile. Then, the next week, try that pace for two miles. That’s 20 minutes per mile. Use your phone as a stopwatch. I’m sure you can do a mile in 20 minutes.

I can walk a mile in 15 minutes...with a bad knee. I can do that for six miles. I’m 58 years old.

Could change it but I won’t.
I’ll never be fit, I don’t like working out, I hate it, I despise it, it makes me more depressed.
I especially will not walk out side.
There’s no incentive. The most fit I ever wasy(could do real pushups, was at 245 pounds and 42 size waist) was when I was 24 and trying to join the marines and had incentive to get in shape as marines won’t take fat people. So maybe if I had a gf who wanted me to be fit I’d work at it and deal with all the negatives but I don’t want won’t ever have a gf. There’s no incentive, I’d rather spend my few free time relaxing, destressing, and having fun.it distracts me from depress rather then spend it getting more depressed doing something that I hate and stresses me out more.
It’s not physical possible to walk a mile in 15 mins, running one in 15 mins is considered peak fitness.


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27 May 2019, 5:46 pm

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I don’t have a lot of relationship experience. My longest relationship was not with a decent human. I consider niceness a very desirable trait. If a guy isn’t nice, he isn’t likely to change.

You have lots of positive traits. You are nice and have a romantic side.

Actually, there was a time in my teen years when I had a choice between a fit guy and a large guy (who was much larger than you), and I chose the large guy. I was thin at the time. Now I’m somewhat overweight but not obese.

There’s much more to a person besides appearances.


You loads more then me.
But would you date a guy who only good trait is he’s nice?
Or seek a guy with his life together and is also nice?
A lot of women think men can change or that they can change men. It’s a common complain or saying by a lot of women. “But he can change, or but I can change him.
It you take that approach then they can find a as*hole abusive guy wit the traits they desire and fit and just change hi to be more nice, easier the. Taking a guy who’s only positives are being nice and romantic and building him into the kind of guy they desire. Especially in my case where due to being disabled they’d never be able to build me into a successful guy. I’ve heard it as the reason for divorces and abusive spouses. “ I thought I could change him”

Lots of guys are nice and romantic though. I don’t have any talent, I don’t have a good income, I have nothing to offer as women on wp always point out to me.

Yes but attractiveness is important in relationships otherwise it’s just a friendship.
I couldn’t be romantic or sexual with a woman I don’t find attractive.


What women on WP said that you have nothing to offer? There’s much more to a person than superficial stuff.

Abusive guys don’t change. I know that for a fact. I really don’t think that the core of a person can change, so it’s important that one is nice from the start.

I think that people could start out by not being sexually attracted to each other but that could change and develop as they get to know and like each other. I’m not attracted in that way to anyone I don’t know and care for.



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27 May 2019, 5:49 pm

sly279 wrote:
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You can change that....you can start by walking at 3 mph for a mile. Then, the next week, try that pace for two miles. That’s 20 minutes per mile. Use your phone as a stopwatch. I’m sure you can do a mile in 20 minutes.

I can walk a mile in 15 minutes...with a bad knee. I can do that for six miles. I’m 58 years old.

Could change it but I won’t.
I’ll never be fit, I don’t like working out, I hate it, I despise it, it makes me more depressed.
I especially will not walk out side.
There’s no incentive. The most fit I ever wasy(could do real pushups, was at 245 pounds and 42 size waist) was when I was 24 and trying to join the marines and had incentive to get in shape as marines won’t take fat people. So maybe if I had a gf who wanted me to be fit I’d work at it and deal with all the negatives but I don’t want won’t ever have a gf. There’s no incentive, I’d rather spend my few free time relaxing, destressing, and having fun.it distracts me from depress rather then spend it getting more depressed doing something that I hate and stresses me out more.
It’s not physical possible to walk a mile in 15 mins, running one in 15 mins is considered peak fitness.


If you walk 4 mph, you walk a mile in 15 minutes. It’s brisk walking. I prefer 3.5 mph.



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27 May 2019, 5:50 pm

I do it all the time. 15 minutes per mile is only a fairly brisk pace.

The record for running a mile is about 3 minutes, 45 seconds. There are people who can walk a mile in about 6 minutes or so. That’s very hard to do.

I’m knowledgeable about this subject. I used to run a lot when I was younger.

Walking a mile in 20 minutes doesn’t require much effort. You have long legs, which is an advantage.



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27 May 2019, 5:55 pm

A mile is really not that long.

If you get out of breath, just stop for a moment.



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27 May 2019, 6:04 pm

For me, I like girls who're in between: thin, but not too thin, and just a little chubby, but not too chubby. However, I have a dad bod, but I'm not fat at all, only chubby, and I have some muscle as well. I also heard that everyone has their own preferences, which means that we either like skinny or chubby people.

Overall, I've seen several relationships of all different sizes, which gives me hope in the dating world, outside of personality, which is important as well.