18 Aug 2019, 9:03 am
hurtloam wrote:
Trueno wrote:
SaveFerris wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
All of my male friends aren't into me... That's the sad reality of my life.
How can you be 100% on this , I went through my life never recognizing all the signals , if you don't have someone willing to spell it out you'll never know. Luckily my current GF had to spell it out and make the move as I didn't realise she was interested even after our first date.
Absolutely. It's spelling it out or nothing for me.
As in... "that girl in accounts really fancied you..."
Me... "really? I wondered why she kept giving me funny looks."
What don't understand us why you guys can't be interested in someone based on being attracted to them. Why isn't it enough to make some effort when you like someone's personality? Why don't you want to spend time with them unless someone is direct about their interest.
I'm always exploring new people and guys just sit and watch the world go by.
Can't speak for anyone else but for me it's low self esteem , no confidence , shy , autistic , anxiety etc and that's just for friends.
I did make friends with a girl in work , it was purely platonic but everyone else in work thought I was f*****g her , I got quite paranoid about it and it ultimately led to a burnout.
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18 Aug 2019, 9:04 am
18 Aug 2019, 9:27 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
There’s no pure male-female friendship unless the guy is gay or loyal to his wife.... of course this male friend is into one of you. This is a a given.
Well, he's not into me. I'm not the one getting the look, so...
What a narrow world view you have.
All of my male friends aren't into me... That's the sad reality of my life.
I said they may be into one of you, by 'you' I meant you + your group of female friends.
So either they're into you or into one/some of your female friends.
Ah, I could argue with you, but I made this scenario up...
I just wanted to know people's thoughts on the phrase, "The look".
The truth is we had a conversation about someone giving someone the look.
18 Aug 2019, 9:32 am
Is this 'The Look' 
18 Aug 2019, 9:46 am
18 Aug 2019, 3:09 pm
There is a lot that can be discerned from looking at someone's eyes. That with animals and people. "The eyes are the window to the soul" However sometimes even looking isn't enough to give you answers. I often find myself 'searching' but not finding or maybe getting information that I just can't interpret.
hurtloam wrote:
Well, he's not into me. I'm not the one getting the look, so...
What a narrow world view you have.
All of my male friends aren't into me... That's the sad reality of my life.
What a narrow world view you have.
All of my male friends aren't into me... That's the sad reality of my life.
At one point or another, I suspect most male friends of women will entertain the idea of being with her in some form. But that doesn't mean they are necessarily into her; it's more of just a curiosity. Because certainly, the majority of the male friends I've had did not want to be with me.
SaveFerris wrote:
Is this 'The Look'
Lol
that or something similar was actually what I first thought of when I heard "The look"
I had to contemplate it in terms of attraction to have my brain go "ah hah! There is a certain look people will have when they 'want you'"
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18 Aug 2019, 10:46 pm
hurtloam wrote:
What does the term "the look" mean to you.
I'm too much in my own head to really notice looks.
