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Kree
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30 Aug 2019, 7:18 pm

Oh and yes! He got officially diagnosed about 5 years ago.



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30 Aug 2019, 7:58 pm

Kree wrote:
Also I am curious whether the other (last 3) commentators are on the spectrum themselves? Their way of thinking and viewing things is much like my own. So while I appreciate the opinion, I did come here to hear the 'aspie side' or hear from people that have experienced similar situations with AS friends/partners near and dear.
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If your including me, Yes I am on the spectrum. I've screwed up my 1st two relationships in a way that looked like I was jelly. I've had BAD anxiety & OCD that caused me to majorly worry about them & believe bad things were going on that weren't & I became controlling as a result. It looked like I was jelly in a way but the real reason I didn't want them hanging out with guys & doing various things was cuz I did not trust the guys & was expecting bad things to happen to them. I learned, grew, & matured a lot since then & got on OCD & anxiety medication & haven't had those problems in my current relationships thou I do have some problems but they aren't nearly as bad.


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30 Aug 2019, 8:16 pm

If I'm part of those 3 you're wondering about.
Yes for me.
I learned at a very young age that there's no sense in doing anything I wouldn't be able to admit because lying plagues me like crazy and creates terrible problems in my brain and happiness.



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31 Aug 2019, 3:19 am

Kree wrote:
Also I am curious whether the other (last 3) commentators are on the spectrum themselves? Their way of thinking and viewing things is much like my own. So while I appreciate the opinion, I did come here to hear the 'aspie side' or hear from people that have experienced similar situations with AS friends/partners near and dear.
Thank you

Hi again Kree, I'm one of the 3 who commented and yes I'm on the spectrum.

I've been in situations where I've unwittingly upset a partner and started to become more and more secretive.

I can't remember who said it but I read somewhere,
"Aspie need space and if you don't give it they will find a way to take it"

I've been there, hiding feelings and retreating into a fantasy world, the intensity of feelings being discussed where too full on, it felt invasive, like an interrogation.