Has anyone else been dropped like a hot potato for no reason

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I wonder of its worse for aspies to deal with.

You're going along fine with no indication of anything being wrong, the suddenly, things start going wrong.

This wasn't the plan.

I don't feel different. Why do you feel different? Nothing changed, but you've stopped being there and doing what you were doing and there's no logical reason for it.

It's really difficult to make logical sense of.

Exactly! I don't understand the whole "feelings change" argument. I'm still me, he's still him. Nothing changed besides he couldn't see me for a while. If he "loved" me, why doesn't he want to see me anymore?

This will sound strange to NTs, but I don't understand how you can stop loving someone unless they explicitly change or your perception of them does. You got to know them, you loved that person for who they were. Well, they're still them. So how can you not still love them? I don't understand.

I assume it is like what some of the other posters said, he liked you but wasn't in love with you and when his circumstances changed such that he couldn't see you as much he found that he preferred life without a partner, which is a somewhat common disposition in people of your age group

I know what you mean. I still love both my exes & me & my 1st broke up 16 years ago & me & my 2nd broke up about 7. I cant unlove someone 1ce I start loving them. I haven't heard anything from or about them since shortly after we broke up. I really hope they're OK.

I get very emotionally attached to people, some more than others.

When it's someone I get exceptionally attached to, I get extremely depressed and want to withdraw from everything.

You said he went to some other country. It's possible he is expected to participate in an arranged marriage in that other country. He may actually wish he could be with you but believes he has no choice in the matter. I believe this happens a lot.