POF is pissing me off

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I never noticed that on POF but I quit using it over 7 years ago. What I majorly liked about POF at the time I used it was that it had a forum. I found on POF & other dating sites that had forums that I attracted people to view my profile & even got some to message me by posting on the forums a lot. None of the women were ever interested in meeting me thou some said they would of if they lived a lot closer; they claimed to be into someone like me but didn't wanna do long distance thing even thou I would of been very willing to relocate & move in with her 1ce things got serious.

That's a good reason to avoid kids.


Not everyone who happens to live in a ghetto area is necessarily part of what you describe as "ghetto culture." They might just be unable to afford to live anywhere else, for whatever reason. They might be, for example, young people with low-paying jobs who can't live with their parents due to an abusive home situation.

If you were to run into the rare (in your general area) woman who does share your interests and values, and who is not into "ghetto culture" (at least for the most part), but who happens to live in a ghetto area, would you rule her out simply because of where she lives?

I would say there’s a good proportion of people living in “ghetto” areas who don’t buy into the “ghetto culture.”

I’ve lived in “ghetto” areas in the past.

As long as she didn’t conduct herself like the two women in this video, I wouldn’t write her off:

I doubt those kind of women would be interested in me, though. I would be a “wimpy dork” or maybe even gay in their eyes since I am not a “bad boy”.

I cannot remember exactly but at least a couple years, and within that time I met a few guys...most turned out not really to be worth my time. But that is the risk you take when meeting someone to date.

I mean it is not a perfect system and it can be frustrating but also I am not sure how I really would have found a boyfriend without the dating sites.

Some tips:

- "Grab my number" (as first reply or test) = SCAM
- "My phone's camera is broken" = SCAM
- "I am in the US army deployed in Iraq" = SCAM
- "My mother is sick and needs expensive treatments" = SCAM
- "I am out of phone credits, please send me some" = SCAM

Have a nice day.

One of my co-workers doesn’t like being treated like a “whore” but she unfortunately still allows guys to “pump and dump” her. I guess she’s wondering if maybe things will be different just like I do when I try to approach women in social places but I always return home without gaining a new contact.

When I failed at dating sites, I felt like all options were exhausted and any hope would be “false hope”. I won’t ever get to post a “I finally have a girlfriend!” topic. Alliekit said she would do it for me but she’s gone now.

Half the profiles are fakes or bots or scammers. It is hard to tell the difference between real and fake accounts on dating sites. If a profile looks too good to be true a reverse image check will reveal it is fake.

If there is that many fake accounts on there WHY DOESN'T POF DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT!?!?!

Because if they got rid of all the fake or dead accounts, there would be very little left and the majority of them are capital C crazy. Whatly. got me to sign up for eHarmony was the large number of matches. Of course, I only realized later that many of them had long left the site and some were total fakes. I actually browsed POF as a joke and outside of the clearly fake profiles, most of them were downright disturbing to put it nicely.


It took me exactly three years and about $600 to find the missus. I actually met her AFTER I closed my account and saw no romantic potential at all: she just seemed like a nice person. I agree with the advice not to get too involved in it if you value your mental sanity or your positive opinion of the opposite gender. You really learn how sh***y many women can be under their friendly façade and I am sure the same applies the opposite way. Took me a long time to trust women in general after all the flaking, lying, ghosting, etc.

How long did it take my wife? Less than a month! I was her first and only real life date.

Been on them for 14 years checking them daily and still alone forever.