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BDavro
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22 Oct 2019, 9:10 pm

so all autistic women are b*****s because a girl did not reply to you on farcebork?

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22 Oct 2019, 9:11 pm

I see one every two days at my day program. And the other at my Aspie club every two weeks.

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22 Oct 2019, 9:18 pm

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I see one every two days at my day program. And the other at my Aspie club every two weeks.

How do you know they are autistic and not just tourists?

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22 Oct 2019, 9:25 pm

One I message on her Facebook page. I haven't seen her since last summer. The other I have only met once. She was only being friendly. I won't see her again. The others I have already posted when I see them.

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23 Oct 2019, 8:21 am

I'm a Christian autistic woman who is happily married. I've known my husband since 2004. He would beg to differ with you.

More alarming, your post doesn't reflect Jesus' command to love one another, including enemies. If you can't even show respect or interest to those who share a diagnosis with you, how can you then love enemies and reflect Christ's command?

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23 Oct 2019, 9:13 am

kdm1984 wrote:

I respect all living beings. I don't hate autistic women. I can only be friends with them. I believe there are exceptions to anything. However, based on my experience alone, I can't and won't ever date any women with autism. How do you separate the good ones from the bad ones?

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23 Oct 2019, 9:19 am

windmaker wrote:

... based on my experience alone, I can't and won't ever date any women with autism. How do you separate the good ones from the bad ones?

Same as you would with NT women: by Trial and Error.

You will never find the one woman who's right for you if you dismiss all of one type based on a few bad experiences.

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23 Oct 2019, 9:30 am

Fnord wrote:

windmaker wrote:

... based on my experience alone, I can't and won't ever date any women with autism. How do you separate the good ones from the bad ones?

Same as you would with NT women: by Trial and Error.

You will never find the one woman who's right for you if you dismiss all of one type based on a few bad experiences.

This.

And it's your prerogative if you don't want to date autistic women - I think people take issue with the thread because the title and OP seem to demand that everyone do the same

From what you're saying here you weren't in an actual relationship with any of them - they were merely acquaintances. So accusing them of hurting you and breaking your heart seems a bit out of proportion.

Maybe you could spend more time in here, there are quite a few really cool and nice autistic women around

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23 Oct 2019, 9:33 am

Yep....and pretty darn charming, too!

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23 Oct 2019, 9:41 am

Fnord wrote:

windmaker wrote:

... based on my experience alone, I can't and won't ever date any women with autism. How do you separate the good ones from the bad ones?

Same as you would with NT women: by Trial and Error.

You will never find the one woman who's right for you if you dismiss all of one type based on a few bad experiences.

I agree with that but since some women on the spectrum may not have enough empathy with guys it's like walking on a minefield with every step you might get blown up. I rather take my chances with a NT Woman than to having to get blown up by someone on the spectrum.

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23 Oct 2019, 9:43 am

windmaker wrote:

Fnord wrote:

windmaker wrote:

... based on my experience alone, I can't and won't ever date any women with autism. How do you separate the good ones from the bad ones?

Same as you would with NT women: by Trial and Error.

You will never find the one woman who's right for you if you dismiss all of one type based on a few bad experiences.

You can as well get blown up by an allistic woman, especially one completely misunderstanding your autistic behaviors.

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23 Oct 2019, 9:45 am

There are many non-autistic women who share some or all of the supposed "negative" characteristics of autistic women.

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23 Oct 2019, 9:50 am

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... some women on the spectrum people may not have enough empathy with guys other people; it's like walking on a minefield with every step -- you might get blown up.

There. Corrected it for you.

Some people are like that -- they lack empathy or are intentionally indifferent to the feelings of others. You are going to find that NTs and Autistics are both like that. NTs are just better at concealing their lack of empathy and/or indifference by acting convincingly like they care when they actually don't care.

This is why I am immediately suspicious when someone who has never been nice to me before suddenly starts acting nice to me for no apparent reason.

But that does not mean that I have given up on making new acquaintances.

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23 Oct 2019, 9:54 am

Men like the OP are the reason why women like me don't date or show interest in any man at all. :twisted:

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23 Oct 2019, 10:03 am

lostonearth35 wrote:

Men like the OP are the reason why women like me don't date or show interest in any man at all.

The opinions of an obvious minority should not deter one from seeking a romantic partner.

Then again, if someone is traumatized every time they are rejected, then maybe they should give up on romance and accept being single for the rest of their lives.

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23 Oct 2019, 10:09 am

Breaking up with somebody can be a very major thing. It can seem or be traumatizing.

Yet.....even though I've felt like going into oncoming traffic right after a breakup, I've never given up on the pursuit.

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