Have friends ever told you they could help you get a

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When I was in my mid 20s I had one of my cousins ask me if I had a girlfriend & I said No & then she asked me Why Not. I only saw her like 1ce or twice a year since we became adults so we didn't know each other that much. I didn't really know how to explain that I desperately wanted a girlfriend but women just didn't like me in that way.

The best answer is something along the lines of, "I haven't met the right woman yet", and leave it at that. If your cousin is smart, she'll take it as a hint and start playing matchmaker for you.

That's the perfect answer to those who ask if you are a virgin, too.

The perfect answer to "Why are you still a virgin?" is "Because you have never offered a cure".

The perfect answer "Sorry I must have missed the memo where my personal life is now your business?"

The former might make one more popular than the latter...

I got a new flatmate recently. She's engaged and likes to play matchmaker with her single friends. According to her she's making it her personal mission to get me out of my shell and find me a girlfriend. Pft, good luck with that. I mean, people have been trying for years to get me to open up, but I'm still fairly socially anxious and I overthink things. To the point where I sabotage myself. Recently I keep getting advice to be more confident and to put myself out there more.

Have you spoken to that girl you met on an online site who goes to your university?

Case in point:



No. I don't think it's gonna happen. We still speak online as distant friends. She still wants to hang out sometime but I feel as though it's just going to be one of those plans that never actually happen. I've accepted that. Personally I think that this whole thing was a mistake. I somewhat regret attempting online dating even though I didn't stick with it for long. However, I have considered talking to my friends about it since they know her, but on the other hand I think I should just forget about it and move on.

Anyway, we probably shouldn't derail this thread too much- perhaps any potential further conversation on this would be better suited to my pointless thread.

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What you said was relevant to the thread. You talked about how you might use the input of friends to see if your situation is viable.

Yes. Then I found out what those so-called “friends” thought of me — a dumping ground for their undesirable, undateable female relatives. “Beggars can’t be choosers”, they would say to me, even after I would remind them that I wasn’t a beggar, that I was not desperate for a relationship, and that I was doing well enough in that department all on my own. I often felt as if those “friends” were more interested in knowing their female relatives were someone else’s responsibility than in knowing that they had done something to brighten my life.

By “undesirable, undateable”, I mean the type of women who seemed care little for their health, their appearance, or (sometimes) their hygiene, and who had few (if any) interests beyond writing rambling emo poetry and watching TV.

My girlfriend might fit your description & I might would too except neither one of us is into EMO poetry but I'm attracted to EMOs.

I would set you up.

I mean, if you wanted someone to. And if you were in the same area as i.

Another friend has been half-joking about making a plan to find me someone, so long as I act as a wing-woman to help them get a date also. Is this what my twenties is going to be? A collective pestering to find a girlfriend? I wonder if they'll join forces with my flatmate.

How on Earth someone acts as a wing-woman...I've no idea.

No. What was wrong with the lazy buggers? Maybe they thought I was beyond help.