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Eh, being intelligent is a lonely place

Romance is nausea inducing anyway, why do you even want it?

Well, someone did something nice for me the other day, a specifically romantic gesture, it made me feel all warm and fuzzy and cared for.

I enjoyed the gesture. But I'm suspicious about how genuine it is. Am I just another girl. Does it even matter, this thing won't go anywhere even if it was genuine. Getting old is a Nuisance.

I'm this weird in-between age where I have older friends and younger friends and no one within a five to ten year age gap of me.

Last edited by hurtloam on 13 Apr 2020, 11:29 am, edited 1 time in total.

Is a romantic gesture like a kind gesture? I really wouldn't know what one was if it jumped up and bit me.

A romantic gesture is when you do something like give your girlfriend flowers, or cook her some nice steak, baked potato, and asparagus.....and put on some music she likes.

I gave my wife some flowers this afternoon. Bought them at the supermarket whilst I was out shopping. I understand the mechanics of the gesture (hence I remember to do it if I havent bought any for a while) including the emotional bit - however it still doesnt make much sense to me. However, you dont have to understand everything - if something makes someone else feel better or nice then why not?

Yes, a romantic gesture is doing something for someone you care about because you know it will make them feel good. It makes you feel happy to make them feel good.

This young guy is so sweet and just wants to cheer me up, but I know it's just a way of saying ,"I care about you and don't want you to feel alone". There were romantic words in what he said.

If we weren't under lockdown he wouldn't bother spending time with me anyway because it's not going to work out practically. I'm too old. I don't want to hang out with his 20-something friends. Relationships don't exist in a bubble. It's not going to work out. I'm in a totally different place in life.

So it was nice for all the time I was reading what he wrote. But it's hollow feeling, because it's not enough and I feel slightly ungrateful for saying it's not enough, but this is yet another going nowhere thing.

Maybe you could do a romantic gesture to someone else you are attracted to, after this relationship presumably ends. After all, guys don't have a monopoly on doing that, or do they?

Well I need to find someone first, but I'm not against that idea. I'm the kind of woman who would make a move. I don't just sit back and wait.

Thanks for the information.

If I was to sent a picture of flowers for instance over the net would this class as romantic?

Then again my usual luck at trying anything (which includes normal interactions going wrong) would rear up and the one I send it to would suffer with virtual hayfever.

That would be sweet. But you would need to say something nice in addition to sending the virtual flowers.

Also it depends on the context and how well you know the woman you're sending them to.

Though things like this make me sick
In a case like this I'll get away with it