Being asked "Why?"

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They can say whatever they want and you can't prevent it

They might be curious or making conversation

The could be trying to "help"

But it doesn't matter

Ulterior motives

Hidden objective and meaning

However:

There could be a lot of reasons why

Not enough information to answer the question of "why"

You don't have to know the answer

You don't have to tell them the answer

The answer doesn't have to satisfy them

There doesn't have to be an answer

Not everyone wants to date

Not everyone needs to date

The connector part for sure. I was born that way. I am the ASD type who lacks stranger danger. I am "in love" with (or else afraid of) most everyone. Logically of course I am not, but my reactions are that way. I am not clear how much control I have over those reactions. So I don't know how much "learned helplessness" or codependence I have versus a genuine need for support. I am a sensation seeker and social (but not apt) so am out in the world a lot interacting with lots of people, but near constantly want outside validation (for the social stress). My BFF has made her world small and controlled and does not interact with many folks so has little stress that way and doesn't look for outside validation much at all. I could do better by providing my own validation more; my BFF she could do better by soliciting outside validation more. As it is, in a relationship, I lean towards too needy and she leans towards not needy enough.