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05 Jun 2020, 6:22 pm

Yeah the reason you dont wake up in a woman's bed and not remember what happened is because thats not possible. Its down to the man to make the first move and that means making most of the logistical decisions and that means you know whats going on and your short term memory is working at least. You are probably not going to be under the influence of enough alcohol to forget pulling that woman at the bar.

I remember being 18 and not having a clue how it all worked and thinking oh, i just need to get drunk enough to the point that I dont know whats going on, and then magic will make it happen for me. No. That's wrong.



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06 Jun 2020, 2:54 am

Having fun helps alot

Pushing yourself to talk to people in general in the club can help you with that frame of mind



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06 Jun 2020, 2:56 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
I hear a lot that when people get drunk at bars/nightclubs quite often that they end up getting sex or wake up with a hangover in a strangers bed. On the weekends I get drunk at bars but never get sex or wake up in a girls bed after not remembering what happened the night before.

Yes I am 30 and realise a lot of girls are 18 and 19 who go to the clubs/bars I attend so they are younger than me.



My opinion is that you're very lucky.
Why would you want to wake up in a stranger's bed after a sexual encounter -- without even knowing the details?

That sounds like a lawsuit, a prison term, or a lifelong child support obligation waiting to happen.



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06 Jun 2020, 6:55 am

specialsauce wrote:
Its down to the man to make the first move....

Not necessarily. I used to be very into casual encounters in my younger days. I've lost track of the number of sex partners I've had (not bragging, but making a point), and I've literally NEVER made the first move. I simply can't initiate conversations with strangers or insert myself into groups. Fortunately, the women stepped up and initiated things. Sometimes it even led to more than one night.


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06 Jun 2020, 10:46 am

specialsauce wrote:
Yeah, the reason you don't wake up in a woman's bed and not remember what happened is because that's not possible...
Perhaps for some, but certainly not for the rest of us.


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07 Jun 2020, 6:07 pm

You're 30 years old, I think you should be pursuing women who are at least 22 or 23.



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07 Jun 2020, 6:38 pm

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You're 30 years old, I think you should be pursuing women who are at least 22 or 23.
Traditionally (whose tradition?), the minimum age is half the man's age, plus 7 years, so (30/2)+7 = 22.  You nailed it!


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08 Jun 2020, 3:10 pm

Fnord wrote:
Muse933277 wrote:
You're 30 years old, I think you should be pursuing women who are at least 22 or 23.
Traditionally (whose tradition?), the minimum age is half the man's age, plus 7 years, so (30/2)+7 = 22.  You nailed it!



Nah chances are I would have more luck establishing a relationship with a creepy 60 year old woman than a 22 year old