Very few women want Aspie men

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It is the exceptions which defile the rule.
They ruin it's inherent integrity,
And yet, it can still be of use. <dramatic flair mode off>

I have my own handmaiden for that.

For brushing your teeth or for making love? Or both? Either way, most of us aren't so lucky.

So why can't they brus-


***MOD JUMPING DOWN MY THROAT LIKE BATMAN***


Mmmmm! mmmmmm!! !

Really?  What are their names?Please link to the posts where this allegedly happened.Evidence, please?Again, who are these people?HYPERBOLE.

My late husband was NT... But he had different mental issues. But he just plain didn't understand my perspective on certain things. I am single and wish I could find someone that shared my passion for birds... Anyway I am very open minded... Btw, I think aspie men are cute

I mostly look for people with the same interests, but there are none in Houston, spectrum or NT.

I took your comment literally.
No metaphorical interpretation.
No double entendre.

I was presenting the image of someone brushing my teeth for me.

Ummmm, I have to weigh in here. I am a very successful professional and began dating this guy late last fall. Nothing was right about dating this guy from the start. It all came to light in January when he said something to me which made me change my course of research (I had already been researching why he was so "different") and Aspergers came up. I decided to continue to date him and it has been pure hell, but in the end, he meets a very long list of criteria I created around 10 years ago when I became a single mom (and haven't dated since). Who knew? Dating anyone requires work. The world is f**ked up to begin with. Oh and as for a feminist....I did everything on my own for those 12 years of being a single mom with no help from anyone including an ex husband who was 100% out of the picture including financially.

So, Vegeta, keep an open mind....a professor once told me.....there is someone for everyone. This guy drives me crazy....but at least I understand him (after spending months researching Aspergers and Autism) and despite all my therapists and friends telling me to run and run faster......I like him. (Yes, since dating him, I now have therapists - plural). OMG why?...you ask....because our brains are wired the same. Eeeeerily we have very similar tastes in a lot of things. And I see when his Autism is coming to the forefront....No other woman is ever going to put up with his meltdowns and his literal-ness and his forgetfullness and his lack of ambition and his lack of sex drive (which is killing me right now) and his anxieties and all kinds of other stuff.....but me. But I see that he matches my list, that I made over 10 years ago of what I wanted in a man and I have been single ever since I made that list.....that's a long time to wait. : )

The world is F**ked up and life is very short. No matter who you date...there are going to be issues and it's going to be work. I like him. Even if he doesn't really like me. Because I still can't tell. : )

Maybe you need to create a new list.

There are pro and cons in every relationship.
Obviously the "pros" have won out, in yours.

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I must admit, that comment of his had absolutely no validity/credibility.
It was more than a little odd.

Anyone remember this scene from this Eddie Murphy movie where he played as prince?

You know damn well I can't name names. Since it's such a sensitive issue, as I've indicated, outing people would be very much frowned upon.

Naive or disingenuous? "Offending posts" are deleted and MODs send warning PMs. The best way to test my supposition is to try it yourself. If you ever encounter what I've described, test the waters and see what happens. (But you won't, and we know you won't.)



Look no futher than yourself. Asking, "Well, why do some Aspie men succeed with women?" seems somewhat dismissive of a larger problem. Like if I said, "Gee, why do MOST Aspies successfully brush their teeth by themselves? What the hell is wrong with you for not being able to brush your teeth like the rest of us?" to someone who apparently can't brush their own teeth by themselves (a much less frequent occurrence than lack of success with in dating).



I won't name names. Call me a liar or call it a convenient omission if you must. Doesn't make it any less so.

In this instance, I think the term dramatic effect is more appropriate. It's not a complete exaggeration by any means.

Arsenio Hall was happy to receive his "punishment" at the hand of the handmaids. Gee...I wonder if he was excited to have them brush his teeth for him.

Ok, so my dad found an attractive second wife who likes him for some reason.. but he is not depressed and he is always positive/optimistic and practical/smart.

On the other hand, I read that women married to aspie men complain of feeling lonely, sad, neglected, frustrated and unhappy because aspie men do not see them for the people they are and don't show verbal or physical affection. I guess it's like being married two a two year old or a robot. The thought of causing this to women and not being able to not do it or not even wanting to is scary.

Yup.
I wouldn't give up "the other cleaning area", by the handmaidens, either.