Tinder Dating App

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I had no luck whatsoever with Tinder, and I gave it a good shot. I had very few mutual matches, and there were plenty of attractive women on there. This is how I looked at the time, I think I was using pics like the ones below. The best I was able to do was set up one date...she didn't show (came up with some excuse about how she had to leave town the night before at the last minute, not sure why she didn't tell me)...and I decided I'd had enough of Tinder. I tried pictures of me smiling as well (which went on to be what led to success on a dating site). Apparently showing a good smile is important.

You remind me somewhat of the drummer from Twenty One Pilots. The one who often wears a beanie hat. Is that just me or does anyone else see the resemblance? Maybe it's just the outfit, I don't know.

I have face blindness, so I'm not the best person to answer that.
To me, everyone looks like Colonel Sanders, with or without a beard.

Well, you don't have a problem with looks.
Perhaps you are *TOO* handsome.

Hang on.
Let me get my magnifying glass.

No...well I didn't think so either. Thanks, though. It always seemed something else wasn't right, idk what. For a while I thought I actually had a bug on my app, but...probably wasn't that, since some matches were happening. For a long time on dating site I would hit on all kinds of women, not a lot of responses. I had a pretty decent profile as well, I thought...like good education, job, etc.

Probably the most positive response was when I posted on craigslist "no strings attached" and a very attractive woman asked me to meet her...for sex. I was pretty reluctant though, I had been scammed before, and didn't feel comfortable just meeting some woman randomly. She also said "discreet" which is code for "so I can cheat on someone with you". I'm not about that at all...never could do a one night stand anyway, for me I become emotionally interested and want to see more of the person...just how I am.

Lost_dragon, maybe a bit? Not as much from the side, though. My face has changed a little since then and is rounder now, so probably even less so these days.

Could it be that some women are intimidated by your Tatoos?
Perhaps you should cover them up, the next time you post pics?

I am an older person, so maybe I am just out of touch.
I am simply trying to be helpful.

I use Tinder sometimes. Most of my conversations don't really go anywhere. I have five matches at the moment, but most abruptly end. Sometimes I learn interesting facts from people and there's a little bit of flirting, but then even though it was going fine it'll just come to a halt. It happens. Chances are they probably matched with someone else and it's going better for them in that conversation, I don't know.

Something I find annoying is the number of women who just want you to follow them on Instagram. There is a significant amount of people who just want followers. Plus, there are two other things that annoy me. The filters can be a little faulty, such as if you put your settings to 10-20 miles but still have profiles from 500 miles show up every so often. Now, the other thing that annoys me is less to do with the app and more to do with the users.

You can write in custom genders when you first sign up, and some people use this to write in options that were already there. Such as writing "straight man" when man seeking woman was an option, or "straight woman" when woman seeking man was also an option. I know straight women do this to look for friendships since they still want to appear to women, and men do this I guess to either look for bisexual women or they believe that they have a chance with lesbians. Sometimes I get random likes from men (it blurs out the profiles that like you on the free version, but I can still tell who is who from the silhouette shape when comparing it to the profiles that come up) despite having lesbian written on my profile and choosing "woman seeking woman" but that's to be expected of dating apps.

It would be great though if there was a key-word filter, so I had a way of filtering out profiles that have straight woman or straight man as their custom gender. A simple "Do not show / exclude profile if description includes...". Oh well.

Have you been on a date through Tinder yet?

Well now it's basically irrelevant -- I'm a happily married man. My wife is not even remotely tattooed and said before she met me she did have some prejudices about tattoos. I used to wonder about that, though. I live in a very liberal area and tattoos are pretty common. I ultimately figured it was best I didn't cover them up because people who like them would be more attracted, and people who don't...well, I probably would not want to date them anyway, because eventually they'll see the tattoos. I guess it stands to reason that by then they might have already accepted me as a person, and be more open to it. Then I realized I didn't want people who would stereotype a person based on whether they had tattoos or not. So I did go back and forth a bit. Ultimately when someone gets tattoos they make the decision that they're having to deal with this potential problem of repulsing certain people...and to live with that reality.

D'oh!
Now you tell me.

Case closed.
NEXT!

Nope. I had someone say yes to a date, but she seems to have ghosted me. A date probably isn't going to happen any time soon with the pandemic going on anyway. Before the pandemic happened, I had Tinder briefly for about two weeks. I had one match but I found her to be, quite frankly, rather dull. Had around 55 likes but got bored with it.

Re-installed the app again during the pandemic. I've had it for a few months now. Fun fact, when the likes section goes over 99 it just adds a + when you click onto that section, and it appears as 99 when viewing profiles or editing / viewing your own profile. I can understand that, it would look messy if it tried to squeeze in three digit numbers. Discovered that recently with the recent increase in likes, I guess we all really have nothing else to do, huh?

You are cute

I decided to delete Tinder, I’m on Badoo & Coffee Meets Bagel, I been on CMB for a little over a month, I been talking to a few guys, I’m talking to another guy now, we met today.

I saw him first.

But that is moot.
He is already taken.

Do you talk on webcam?