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15 Sep 2020, 4:06 pm

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So, you wanted to be seen with a blonde on your arm and not a brunette? You "might" need some patient self-reflection. Back then, it was all about you. How is it now? Is it a self-status thing still? - like where you fit in with the rest of the guys and how having a blond on your arm makes you "as good as" or "better"? Hair color has nothing to do with true connection. Did you ever want to lighten your hair and lighten your eyes in order to snag a Nordic-looking babe? I had a male African friend who went on vacation/holiday to Norway - the women were crazy over him - he had quite a personality, and quite a good time. That was years ago and he still talks about it...well, to my husband and other men. I just overheard - they chase me out. Also, do you get more attention from women when you go out by yourself or with friends? Are you friends competitive? You may be able to meet a girl through your friends female partners. You just may meet someone nice and if luck has it - a blond girl. (But don't ask for one - the women will see you as shallow) Just be yourself but be just a friend to your mates dates. They will size you up and get you a match. Women like to do that. Besides, some girls go blond if it suits their complexion and style. "Sincerity" will get you places. True sincerity.

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uh oh! Yes you may.

I can hardly wait. :lol:

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15 Sep 2020, 4:09 pm

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It’s not out of the question...

My mom said to me regarding the girl who tried to date me “she would just go out with anyone”

ouch, but she probably said that because she didn't want you to get mixed up with a girl while you were in college - I give my daughter a hard time too. Did you graduate?

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15 Sep 2020, 5:25 pm

RightGalaxy wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

It’s not out of the question...

My mom said to me regarding the girl who tried to date me “she would just go out with anyone”

ouch, but she probably said that because she didn't want you to get mixed up with a girl while you were in college - I give my daughter a hard time too. Did you graduate?

Yeah I finished college back in 2008. I went to another college from 2008-2010. Since then I have had not much Luck with employment

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15 Sep 2020, 7:29 pm

Jamesy wrote:

RightGalaxy wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

It’s not out of the question...

My mom said to me regarding the girl who tried to date me “she would just go out with anyone”

ouch, but she probably said that because she didn't want you to get mixed up with a girl while you were in college - I give my daughter a hard time too. Did you graduate?

Yeah I finished college back in 2008. I went to another college from 2008-2010. Since then I have had not much Luck with employment

What did you major in?

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15 Sep 2020, 7:53 pm

RightGalaxy wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

RightGalaxy wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

It’s not out of the question...

My mom said to me regarding the girl who tried to date me “she would just go out with anyone”

ouch, but she probably said that because she didn't want you to get mixed up with a girl while you were in college - I give my daughter a hard time too. Did you graduate?

Yeah I finished college back in 2008. I went to another college from 2008-2010. Since then I have had not much Luck with employment

What did you major in?

At college I studied film and media mostly

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15 Sep 2020, 8:33 pm

RightGalaxy wrote:

Pepe wrote:

RightGalaxy wrote:

Can I ask you a question? :scratch:

uh oh! Yes you may.

I can hardly wait. :lol:

I will PM you.

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17 Sep 2020, 4:18 am

Reading this thread I suddently just remembered a missed opertunity I had like 18 years ago that I had forgotten about.

After I graduated high-school, me & my best friend chatted on a messenger program called ICQ. It's no surprise I forgotten cuz nobody remembers ICQ. Anyways... I started chatting with one of his friends who was a girl that was a year ahead of us & had went to a different school. She lived like half an hour away. I don't know the story of how they knew each other but they did know each other offline a little. Maybe they met online & had a brief sexual thing IDK. Me & her chatted a lot for a short time & we did meet up 1ce with my best friendd. She was nice & cool to chat with but I was not majorley wanting a romantic relationship at the time. Plus I'm a quiet person in general & very shy in new situations around people I'm not very familier with so we didn't talk much during our hangout.

Shortly after that I met my 1st girlfriend online & we really connected & fell in love. I was still chatting with the 1st girl some & she started dating someone around that time. Both our relationships progressed very fast but mine fell apart while the 1st girl was planning a small wedding. I became depressed & a major downer & we have not chatted since shortly before the wedding.

I was single for 8 years straight after my 1st relationship & I was VERY LONELY & DESPERATE. I wonder what would of happenend if I would of majory wanted a relationship at the time me & the 1st girl were friends & met up. I probably would of screwed that up too cuz of my various issues but I don't know for sure. Maybe my life would of been very different. I have no way of knowing of corse. I wonder what happened to that girl & her guy. I hope things turned out well.

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17 Sep 2020, 10:11 am

Even us NTs have past mistakes and regrets if I knew then what I know now applies to a lot of people .

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17 Sep 2020, 5:19 pm

Brehus wrote:

Even us NTs have past mistakes and regrets if I knew then what I know now applies to a lot of people .

Cest la vie

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17 Sep 2020, 5:45 pm

by the time i got an opportunity at long last, i was too GD old to meet the requirements.

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19 Sep 2020, 8:14 am

I had many opportunities. Opportunities I was too mentally f****d to realize. I used to be quite the social buttefly when I was feeling comfortable - very theatrical and fun. The girls who noticed that took a liking to me and I wish I'd understood that at the time. I fueled my own insecurities further and further, causing my entire life to fall apart and me to become a quiet shell of a person.

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26 Feb 2021, 12:54 am

Jamesy wrote:

I am almost 31 still never had a proper girlfriend or sex either.

when i was 18 in college there was this one girl who wanted to go out with me and make the first move but at the time i was way to picky and rejected her.

is it normal that at times i look back on that missed oppurtunity with regret?

i believe its human nature, i almost lost my virginity at 20, i did everything sexual with the girl except for penetration, but i was nervous at the time, had difficulty getting an erection, it wouldn't happen until i was 25, but it was a fling, casual sex, and i sometimes still feel like a virgin, because i feel i can count on both hands, the number of times i've had sex in my life, and i still feel i'm learning the ropes or just a beginner. My longest relationship or dating experience was only 4 months, but it didn't feel like a true relationship since it was short-term, nevertheless, it was a breakthough, milestone.

Before i dated that woman in 2017, women would always lose interest in me after the first date, so i never got a second date until 2017.

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