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22 Dec 2020, 8:26 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Now I am curious to see this perfect person.


She's curvy, her dad calls her fat but she's not fat cos fat in women would be settled in other places. She has wavy blonde hair, not curly. She's short like 5"2. She's got blue eyes that are somehow lighter and brighter than mine. She reminds me of like a fairy tbh. She has a pixie nose like a fairy and blue sparkling eyes like a fairy.

The one imperfection she has is that she barely reads anything. I'm a book nerd. And I once lent her a book and she stole/lost it. I specifically told her 'I'm giving you this book for two weeks'.

And she's giddy sometimes which is annoying because I want to date a woman and I view that kind of behaviour as belonging to a child. I'm very serious minded. Things I want to be sensible for, she'll be silly about because it's funny to her, not noticing/caring that it annoys me. I only ever like silliness when it's a child having fun or it's a genuine comedian who's a professional.


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22 Dec 2020, 8:29 pm

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^ He is hitting on you. c;


Lol I don't think so but if he is, my eyes are only for women, Leo & KT :lol:


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23 Dec 2020, 2:33 am

KT67 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Now I am curious to see this perfect person.


She's curvy, her dad calls her fat but she's not fat cos fat in women would be settled in other places. She has wavy blonde hair, not curly. She's short like 5"2. She's got blue eyes that are somehow lighter and brighter than mine. She reminds me of like a fairy tbh. She has a pixie nose like a fairy and blue sparkling eyes like a fairy.

The one imperfection she has is that she barely reads anything. I'm a book nerd. And I once lent her a book and she stole/lost it. I specifically told her 'I'm giving you this book for two weeks'.

And she's giddy sometimes which is annoying because I want to date a woman and I view that kind of behaviour as belonging to a child. I'm very serious minded. Things I want to be sensible for, she'll be silly about because it's funny to her, not noticing/caring that it annoys me. I only ever like silliness when it's a child having fun or it's a genuine comedian who's a professional.

It sounds like you crave a deeper serious connection with her and she was too playful to take it seriously. I usually need to balance between the two. It drains me if things are too socially superficial and giggly and can't keep going for long. I notice the depth and serious topics are usually encountered in people on the spectrum on another level.

What kind of things did you want to discuss with her that she sorta shot down?



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23 Dec 2020, 3:24 am

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She's curvy, her dad calls her fat but she's not fat cos fat in women would be settled in other places. She has wavy blonde hair, not curly. She's short like 5"2. She's got blue eyes that are somehow lighter and brighter than mine. She reminds me of like a fairy tbh. She has a pixie nose like a fairy and blue sparkling eyes like a fairy.


Sounds strangely like Stevie Nicks



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23 Dec 2020, 11:58 am

Rexi wrote:
KT67 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Now I am curious to see this perfect person.


She's curvy, her dad calls her fat but she's not fat cos fat in women would be settled in other places. She has wavy blonde hair, not curly. She's short like 5"2. She's got blue eyes that are somehow lighter and brighter than mine. She reminds me of like a fairy tbh. She has a pixie nose like a fairy and blue sparkling eyes like a fairy.

The one imperfection she has is that she barely reads anything. I'm a book nerd. And I once lent her a book and she stole/lost it. I specifically told her 'I'm giving you this book for two weeks'.

And she's giddy sometimes which is annoying because I want to date a woman and I view that kind of behaviour as belonging to a child. I'm very serious minded. Things I want to be sensible for, she'll be silly about because it's funny to her, not noticing/caring that it annoys me. I only ever like silliness when it's a child having fun or it's a genuine comedian who's a professional.

It sounds like you crave a deeper serious connection with her and she was too playful to take it seriously. I usually need to balance between the two. It drains me if things are too socially superficial and giggly and can't keep going for long. I notice the depth and serious topics are usually encountered in people on the spectrum on another level.

What kind of things did you want to discuss with her that she sorta shot down?


Things like if I want to play a board game with her which requires knowledge, she says deliberately stupid answers esp in a group.

Or if I talk books with her or philosophy. Or anything else along those lines. She'll make jokes when I'm trying to be serious.

She must be intelligent. She has a degree & a postgrad qualification. But it's like she's trying to hide it.


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23 Dec 2020, 12:20 pm

KT67 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Now I am curious to see this perfect person.


She's curvy, her dad calls her fat but she's not fat cos fat in women would be settled in other places. She has wavy blonde hair, not curly. She's short like 5"2. She's got blue eyes that are somehow lighter and brighter than mine. She reminds me of like a fairy tbh. She has a pixie nose like a fairy and blue sparkling eyes like a fairy.


That was quite.... descriptive. :nerdy:



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23 Dec 2020, 12:25 pm

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^ He is hitting on you. c;


I hit on no one. :ninja:



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24 Dec 2020, 12:23 am

I must be perfect since I get ignored all the time :lol:



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24 Dec 2020, 12:37 am

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I must be perfect since I get ignored all the time :lol:
I hear ya :wtg:

Her personality sounds pretty cute to me :hic: I think in words so I cant really visualize her looks to well but she could look cute too.


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24 Dec 2020, 4:52 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Rexi wrote:
^ He is hitting on you. c;


I hit on no one. :ninja:

You hit not, you bounce and wiggle on babes



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24 Dec 2020, 5:00 am

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KT67 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Now I am curious to see this perfect person.


She's curvy, her dad calls her fat but she's not fat cos fat in women would be settled in other places. She has wavy blonde hair, not curly. She's short like 5"2. She's got blue eyes that are somehow lighter and brighter than mine. She reminds me of like a fairy tbh. She has a pixie nose like a fairy and blue sparkling eyes like a fairy.

The one imperfection she has is that she barely reads anything. I'm a book nerd. And I once lent her a book and she stole/lost it. I specifically told her 'I'm giving you this book for two weeks'.

And she's giddy sometimes which is annoying because I want to date a woman and I view that kind of behaviour as belonging to a child. I'm very serious minded. Things I want to be sensible for, she'll be silly about because it's funny to her, not noticing/caring that it annoys me. I only ever like silliness when it's a child having fun or it's a genuine comedian who's a professional.

It sounds like you crave a deeper serious connection with her and she was too playful to take it seriously. I usually need to balance between the two. It drains me if things are too socially superficial and giggly and can't keep going for long. I notice the depth and serious topics are usually encountered in people on the spectrum on another level.

What kind of things did you want to discuss with her that she sorta shot down?


Things like if I want to play a board game with her which requires knowledge, she says deliberately stupid answers esp in a group.

Or if I talk books with her or philosophy. Or anything else along those lines. She'll make jokes when I'm trying to be serious.

She must be intelligent. She has a degree & a postgrad qualification. But it's like she's trying to hide it.

People with good grades usually have some sort of personality disorder, statistics say. Then again studies intelligence doesn't magically give empathy or interpersonal skill.

Sounds like that is more fun to her than conversations. Not a match on that. She also seems a little of a center of attention, perhaps through jokes she gets it in groups.

Generally though people can't read your mind, won't know if something they do bothers you. That's why you have to tell them.



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24 Dec 2020, 6:20 am

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People with good grades usually have some sort of personality disorder, statistics say. Then again studies intelligence doesn't magically give empathy or interpersonal skill.


The survey of Mensa's highly intelligent members found that they were more likely to suffer from a range of serious disorders. The survey covered mood disorders (depression, dysthymia and bipolar), anxiety disorders (generalized, social and obsessive-compulsive), attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder and autism.
https://www.scientificamerican.com/arti ... telligent/



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24 Dec 2020, 7:14 am

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Rexi wrote:
People with good grades usually have some sort of personality disorder, statistics say. Then again studies intelligence doesn't magically give empathy or interpersonal skill.


The survey of Mensa's highly intelligent members found that they were more likely to suffer from a range of serious disorders. The survey covered mood disorders (depression, dysthymia and bipolar), anxiety disorders (generalized, social and obsessive-compulsive), attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder and autism.
https://www.scientificamerican.com/arti ... telligent/


It's almost like she's anti aspie which is why I'm putting a lot of this down to 'muse' or 'opposites would attract in a rom com but real relationships might be a bit harder'.

She's dyslexic which is probably an explanation when it comes to reading but doesn't explain why she can't have intelligent conversations.

Being aspie makes me take everything seriously. Otherwise I lose track of things and get sensory overload. Esp if I'm in a quiz type situation - I have to compete and get the right answer or I'm stressed and I can't cope having a team mate who's not trying their hardest too.

I told her that I found it annoying when she was being silly. She was quiet after that but kept giggling.

She called me NT just because I'm not dyslexic. She didn't say 'NT' she said 'boring normal person'. I'm not normal, at least not in that kind of insult way, I'm aspie.


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24 Dec 2020, 7:17 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Now I am curious to see this perfect person.


She's curvy, her dad calls her fat but she's not fat cos fat in women would be settled in other places. She has wavy blonde hair, not curly. She's short like 5"2. She's got blue eyes that are somehow lighter and brighter than mine. She reminds me of like a fairy tbh. She has a pixie nose like a fairy and blue sparkling eyes like a fairy.


That was quite.... descriptive. :nerdy:


:lol: I was aiming at keeping both the 'if you mention a girl online you need pictures/description' rule and the 'I give a crap about her privacy and don't want to actually post a picture' rule.


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24 Dec 2020, 8:28 am

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Find her imperfections. Everyone has them.

45 days of no contact [if i remember correctly]. Double for aspies

Notice other beautiful people


It can be done within a week. 8)



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24 Dec 2020, 8:29 am

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Yeah that's what I need to do, find her imperfections tbh.

And keep distance which is easy cos of lockdown.

It's just spooky stuff I keep focusing on. Weird coincidences that I probably share with someone I haven't even met yet or another friend, too.


Maybe discussing her, in this thread, isn't the best thing to do? 8O

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Rexi wrote:
^ He is hitting on you. c;


I hit on no one. :ninja:

You hit not, you bounce and wiggle on babes

I think it is the other way around. :scratch:



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