ironpony wrote:
I ran into a woman I went out with for a short time right after high school, and I was just saying hi really, but she was all wanting to go out again and catch up, and seems really excited about it.
The fact that she seems really excited about it is a good sign. She might not judge you by your current circumstances as much as you fear she will.
ironpony wrote:
The thing is, I am 36 now, and feel I don't really have much to show. I still live with my parents, and I just lost my job on lay offs recently. My previous job before that lost because of covid back when covid started. This new job was just a seasonal one, which was expected to end by Christmas anyway, and I'm looking for a new one of course.
What kind of job do you think you're likely to be able to get in the near future? And what are your longterm career goals, if any?
ironpony wrote:
But I guess I just feel I don't have a lot to show to make an impression on her after all these years now. She is really goodlooking for her age still for example, and I feel like I am in over my head and she is out of my league.
Really goodlooking for age also because she is 11 years older than me but that also adds to me feeling pressured to make a big impression on her. So I was just wondering, how should I approach this do you think?
If I understand correctly, she's the one taking the initiative here, right? So I think the main thing you should do is just let her lead the conversation and see where she wants to take it. You should also make a point of finding out what kinds of activities she enjoys these days, so you can then invite her to some mutually enjoyable activity, if she still seems interested in seeing you.
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17 Dec 2020, 9:21 pm
