SURVEY To Male Aspies, What Do You Seek in a Partner?

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My mother was the classic "cold" type that passes on Asperger's both genetically and through non-nurture. What I was looking for was a secure family feeling. What I wound up with almost every time was a woman who, like mother, was not particularly attracted to men. I never noticed any other Aspie women around, although I'm good at spotting it in men.

I want a woman who doesn’t expect me to socialize with her friends and family all the time.

I’m don’t mind being a good host—but they are too noisy sometimes, and would rather stay in my bedroom and go on my tablet.

I also like a woman who doesn’t complain all the time, is not a cleaning freak, and doesn’t have bad breath.

I also want a smart woman who doesn’t believe in garbage conspiracy theories, and doesn’t mind that I don’t believe in religion. I like discussion, but not argument.

No mother figure or personal secretary....thanks!

I saw a cartoon once, where, IIRC, Lois Flagston asked her son Chip "What does Nancy like about you?"
"She thinks I'm smart, kind, and brave."
"What do you like about her?"
"She thinks I'm smart, kind, and brave."

A lot of women who are interested in me are the type that are mentally unstable in general. They don't know if they're coming or going with me and sometimes are so anxious themselves that the slightest stressor can see them going off the rails. Any intimacy with them fills them with guilt and anger when they have a bad day.

Better alternatives:

* Unconditional love
* A strong bond
* A soul mate

I have been told by one woman where we went out for a rather odd single date that she found me far to nice to date.