He was definitely not for me

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Sorry, back to the original thread of this post.

I guess i myself am similar to this 43 year old man who you have mentioned.
In that when i experience an extremely busy sensory environment full of pushing, noisy, rude people.

I also sometimes try to find the quickest path through the shop, especially if i am in the grocery store and have only gone to pick up one item. I did this yesterday for example, as around 5 pm UK time, i went to the second grocery store as i needed to buy a light bulb for a desk lamp which I wanted to use for my studies in my flat.

Around 5 pm the grocery store which i had entered was extremely busy, being Monday, the day after the week end.
The shop was extremely cluttered with people, and was a high sensory environment.

To make things more complicated, the store had put in barriers in the store that prevented shoppers from cutting through the shop to the isle that they needed, for example, the light bulb i wanted to buy was in the end isle.

So, i made a few short cuts through the store, by going around the barriers. Little naughty of me.
I made sure i didn't squash anyone and tried my best to walk around people.

I was in a rush, as I have to use public transport to get around, and at the mo, it is very cold.
So i needed to get in and out as soon as possible or I would miss the bus.

I didn't push in front of anyone in the shopping cue, and was not grunge-ly dressed, nor do i have long hair.
I believe i did thank the lady at the check out for her assistance overseeing the self service tills.

By taking the diversions listed, I was able to avoid a lot of the sensory overloading that I would normally get if
having to patiently wait behind every person in the shop while i waited to get to the last isle, which was approximately 8 isles along the way.

The shop's isles are big enough for more than one person to walk down them at the same time, so i do not think my actions were dangerous or rude. Just regular shopping. I am a bit of a ninja though, so perhaps my body movements may startle some. Although probably not. If people had taken offence, then i guess its because it is their nature to be the type of person who likes to take offence, as i believe my actions were not offensive.

But in this world there are all sorts. and not everyone will be happy regardless as to what you do or don't do.
You can't please everyone basically what ever you do.

So, my advice is for people to do their best not to upset people within the limits that their condition dictates.
If a person's health condition causes them to act a little strangely then i guess others have to either make allowances or simply be wise to get away. After all, sensory overload meltdowns are very real, and part of a person, in the same way as epileptic fits are part of being a person with epilepsy.

If a person can not cope with a person's behaviour due to their ailments, then sure, that's fine. then don't pick that person. Your choice.

Having a partner with a disability is your choice. Although, i would comment, if you hope for people to be kind and accommodating with regards to any aspects of your condition, then you perhaps should treat such people with the same respect and consideration as they do you.

Perhaps stalking people isn't the best way to find a partner?...

Yes, we definitely are very incompatible and especially when it comes to our communication
1. When I was in my 20s, I would talk in what others call a fast high pitched voice, which has slowed down
2. When he would talk, it would be very, very slow which he had always felt insecure about it

However, he jerked me around several and has not treated me very well in the past

I'm sorry this happened to you. You definitely deserve better than being jerked around.

Damn, quite_an_extreme is a lucky god compared to this guy's traits.

At least you know what you don't want. Then you know what traits will make you happy. You deserve someone you enjoy and find health with.

If this was AITA there'd be NAH I think.

You both deserve to either be happy single or find someone more compatible.

You weren't a good match, sounds like.

What is "a high geek" woman?

Assuming this is an established relationship, it would help to have more history.

i'm relieved. The way that sentence was worded, it sounded to me like he used you for sex & then ghosted you like a one-night-stand thing. I was was wondering how people can suddently hook up just by happening to shop at the same store together especially in Covid times

He is one of those autistics who is a lot like the character Sheldon, except has a lot going for him in his life. He wants someone who shares the same traits that he does. Otherwise, every other woman is "Too average" so he snubs them and treat them like crap.

Yes, he is very smart but also very conceited and self-absorbed next to using his autism to play the victim card. "I am really smart but I can't have that career I have always wanted because of my autism, it's not fair." Everytime he has met someone new he tells everyone that he can't live his dream because he is autistic."

A geek woman on stilts.

I was thinking more along the lines of mind-altering substances.

It's like a high vamp. The Qveen of geeks.

Lesser and higher health spell. Mote your health be in high percentage.

What is a high Vamp?
a put this term into google and it came up with lots of pictures of shoes.

funny, i assumed it had something to do with goth punk pseudo vampires or something..

oh well, I hope the guy finds a nice new pair of shoes and lives happily ever after....

https://harrypotterfanon.fandom.com/wiki/High_Vampire_(Kerapac)

Would you spend your life with one?

I think you have a point here.

You guys are funny. Anyway, that is how he described it. To him, a high geek is a woman who:
1. Hates small talk
2 Has deep intelligent conversations 24/7
3. Is extremely creative

An Amy Farrah Fowler type of personality

He thought I was smart but not to that level