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What do you think I should do? (read before voting)
Break up with her 18%  18%  [ 2 ]
Keep dating her and stick it out. 36%  36%  [ 4 ]
Date her for at least another month and then make a decision. 27%  27%  [ 3 ]
Something else 9%  9%  [ 1 ]
Show me the results. 9%  9%  [ 1 ]
Total votes : 11

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02 Jun 2021, 5:25 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Read the edited post; I added things to it.

The thing is that *every single time* a thread or topic comes up about someone dating an Asian girl, there’s always mentioning of this « Asian fetish ».
Why we never see the term of  Polish fetish or African fetish in other « inter-racial » coupling or whatever?

There’s no « Asian fetish », this term has to die for good.


I agree. I'm just stating the reality. That's something young Asian woman are warned about. My sister-in-law and her sisters grew up knowing about the potential, so they were very careful.


Similarly, people here have warned Muse about young woman from other countries who might be seeking a green card.

We have also warned members here about the risks of catfishing and other online dating scams.



Usually women from Asian countries prefer (and vocally ask) the foreigner man to go and live with them in their country than vice versa, for your information.

Like maybe more than 90% of them.



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02 Jun 2021, 5:26 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Read the edited post; I added things to it.

The thing is that *every single time* a thread or topic comes up about someone dating an Asian girl, there’s always mentioning of this « Asian fetish ».
Why we never see the term of  Polish fetish or African fetish in other « inter-racial » coupling or whatever?

There’s no « Asian fetish », this term has to die for good.


I agree. I'm just stating the reality. That's something young Asian woman are warned about. My sister-in-law and her sisters grew up knowing about the potential, so they were very careful.


Similarly, people here have warned Muse about young woman from other countries who might be seeking a green card.

We have also warned members here about the risks of catfishing and other online dating scams.



Usually women from Asian countries prefer (and vocally ask) the foreigner man to go and live with them in their country than vice versa, for your information.

Like maybe more than 90% of them.


Exactly. That's why I said that Muse will need to go and meet her.


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02 Jun 2021, 7:55 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Usually women from Asian countries prefer (and vocally ask) the foreigner man to go and live with them in their country than vice versa, for your information.

Like maybe more than 90% of them.




Her end goal is to ultimately get married and come live in the United States. She also wants to have kids someday.


She's a great girl and I enjoy talking to her, but sometimes I fear that she's simply using me for a green card and as soon as we get married, she'll divorce me. We have talked about this and she made it clear that wealth doesn't matter to her and that she's not a gold digger.



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03 Jun 2021, 2:36 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
I agree with everything the other members have posted. I'd also recommend that you look at this from her perspective, and not just your own. Assuming she's sincere about liking you, she's probably very cautious. She's dating a man from another country who expressed an interest in meeting her primarily because of her nationality. A lot of people have a fetish for Asian women so this could make her a bit anxious. Then she's only known you for a month, and the relationship is online. Now you are trying to discuss sex with her, via an internet connection and a camera.

I've been with my guy over a year and I wouldn't be comfortable talking about sex online with him. We don't do video cybersex (sorry boys) and I would be very hesitant if a new partner that I just met on the other side of the world was starting to ask about my sexuality. I know you aren't trying to be a perv and you have legit reasons for inquiring, but think how it feels for her. On top of that there are cultural and religious differences for her to consider, and it sounds like she's quite shy. She obviously likes men to some degree or she wouldn't be on a dating site, and she wouldn't be talking to you.

I don't think this is something you can reasonably discuss or assess, until you meet her in person.


I get what you're saying. I can see my suggestion of being more frank is maybe not culturally sensitive. I agree he should give it more time and get to know her.

I feel like conservative Christian Americans are the ultimate prudes. I watched an American Christian thing about what would you say if someone asked you about sex before marriage and the teen in that phrased it in a quite sex positive way. They were totally up for it, but only after marriage.

So seeing that openness to talk about it presented from a prudish American made me think that was just what the Gen Z wait till marriage crowd were like.

Mind you my Gen X friend I mentioned earlier had the same attitude and she's British so it may not be a generational thing.