The other side of the coin is that women generally (at least in western culture) have convinced themselves (through serial maternal indoctrination, from generation to generation) that when they fancy a guy, they are entitled to an ego trip and play hard to get!
Since me “Dreams of Totty” post, I’ve realized that most of those girls who ignored me, or told me to bugger off and leave them alone, since I first took an interest in them, were doing this, but I hadn’t a clue at the time, so most of my sexual activity didn’t involve other life forms; I always took no for an answer, so they ended up disappointed, and no doubt considered me a failure.
It’s a stupid and unnatural practice (apart from some birds and frogs, I know of no other species which does this) wherein they risk all, for what amounts to a little emotional gratification, whilst claiming it builds stronger bonds (hogwash!).
Just to rub it in, I’ve also belatedly realized (by a process of elimination; after decades of eliminating the impossible, it’s all that’s left) that I was one of those boys autism researchers often describe as beautiful. Those girls probably expected I had loads of confidence when in fact I was clueless, and, having experienced only rejection I had none whatsoever.
I’ve met a few women who didn’t have this mercenary attitude, who had no fear of letting a man know they were interested and they all had wonderful love lives, and it’s no coincidence that most of those were raised by single fathers.
In brief, women do this to themselves, and if they became more reasonable, this would be a much less frequent problem. Until them, a man has a choice, to be pushy, or do without.
29 Jun 2021, 12:41 am
