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11 Jul 2021, 8:33 pm

Mona Pereth wrote:
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Not many people know what "butterflies" truly mean.
"Butterflies" (a.k.a. "butterflies in your tummy") means a tingly feeling throughout your body, primarily in your abdomen and upper legs, due to extreme excitement...
Hmm ... the lower abdomen and upper thighs, you say?

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Funny, that is also where the physical manifestations of sexual arousal occur ... strange that such a libidinous state should be associated with members of the macrolepidopteran clade Rhopalocera from the order Lepidoptera.


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11 Jul 2021, 11:48 pm

Fnord wrote:
Mona Pereth wrote:
Nades wrote:
Not many people know what "butterflies" truly mean.
"Butterflies" (a.k.a. "butterflies in your tummy") means a tingly feeling throughout your body, primarily in your abdomen and upper legs, due to extreme excitement...
Hmm ... the lower abdomen and upper thighs, you say?

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Funny, that is also where the physical manifestations of sexual arousal occur

Yes, but sexual arousal is nevertheless a different thing. "Butterflies" is caused by strong emotional excitement.

Of course it's also possible to experience both at the same time.


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12 Jul 2021, 8:26 am

Mona Pereth wrote:
[...] sexual arousal is nevertheless a different thing. "Butterflies" is caused by strong emotional excitement.  Of course it's also possible to experience both at the same time.
Are you implying that sex and love are different and unrelated things?  (They are, of course.)

It seems to me now that in addition to Nades possibly displaying Nice Guy™ behavior, the woman's reproductive urges simply did not go all a-flutter in his presence (thus the "butterfly" metaphor).

Of course, no Nice Girl™ would ever admit to being sexually attracted to a man, and certainly never to a Nice Guy™.


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12 Jul 2021, 9:19 am

Do women want guys who are complete bad boys though? There are times I have admitted certain fears and vulnerabilities to women in dating, and they seem to like they I said that and thought it was human unless they do not like if a man admits any of that, or seems to have any of that?



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12 Jul 2021, 9:32 am

ironpony wrote:
Do women want guys who are complete bad boys though? [...]
Some women do, and some women do not.

Some women may want a particular bad boy, and no other.

Some women may want bad boys for only a short time.

Some women "settle" for bad boys because they believe they have no other choice.

Some women cannot imaging life without a bad boy, while other women cannot image life with a bad boy.

All women are different, and no one else knows what any one woman really wants at any given time.


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