Looks, Intellect, moral character, interests, personality?

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1. Moral character
2. Interests
3. Personality
4. Intellect
5. Looks

On how I perceive each (out of 10) but only for 'at least' 10 for all would be great lol

Moral Character 9
Intellect 7
Interests 7
Personality 9
Looks 7

Moral character - important for obvious reasons.
Intellect - I don't mind how intelligent so long as common sense is high.
Interests - very important but only at least so I can hold a good conversation with them.
Personality - where the real character delves, very important.
Looks - I'm not shallow so I care little for natural beauty but I care for effort, although just for hair and clothes and things I'm not at all fussed about make-up and stuff...

hmm... my thing was quite flawed and not very logical... but ok - the most important things to me are obvious if you read the descriptions of my personal oppinions...

1. Moral Character
2. Personality
3. Interests
4. Intellect
5. Looks

Tim

Well, at least for me this is how it goes. With physical attraction, I can't deny and won't - it has to be there. It means nothing on its own but its a minimum, don't mean to sound shallow but that's just real world and its in everyone.

As far as the rest, I think what I'm looking for is definitely personality - adjustment, integrity, intelligence, maturity. Someone who really gets life, gets people, gets the fact that we're only here 80 years and that if you make the wrong choices whether in life or in love that can be a very long 80 years. A guy like myself, which I'm sure there's plenty out there, are altruists, want an altruist, and someone who looks both deeply into themselves as well as relationship issues - especially someone who sees a guy as an equal, doesn't take a guy as a drooling troll trying to get in her pants or who puts guys 'way down there' because of human dynamics in what they see of sex drive - nor do they see a guy who's mind and spirit first, sex drive second as weak but rather they're like that themselves and can identify for the sheer fact that they have pride in themselves and would want a partner of the same caliber.

Really we want peace, harmony, happiness, whatever degree of bliss we can achieve on this earth - life is hard, its full of challenges, pit-falls, broken bones, busted teeth, all the rest, and personal life is sanctuary, we want someone who's an addition to that sanctuary rather than an adversary of necessity. Someone like myself, if I could find them, I'd gladly follow natural profile, gladly lay down my life for them even, just because finding that kind of solace in another human being is a). priceless and b). almost impossible on this earth. Its really a shame, for all the technology we have though, that the relationship world is so locked in archanum - its probably why the divorce rate as well as the rate of single NTs as well as aspies has gone so high, our natural law system of this is really failing us.

Personality, moral character, interests, intellect, and looks. The problem with this is, the only info I have on someone, aside from assumptions based on how they're dressed and/or carry themselves, is what they look like. So I tend to gravitate towards those who I find attractive, since I have no information about any of the other traits. Because the only concrete info I have is physical appearance, it would seem to go like looks, then the rest all still in order. However, this only seems to be the case for dating an individual someone doesn't know. There are plenty of other interpersonal relationships that will follow the initial order I stated. In fact, AFAIK, every date/GF I've had has involved someone I already knew, and wasn't based solely on looks. Hell, I don't think I've ever gone on a date with anyone I didn't already know, probably because I've been rejected every time I've asked who I consider to be fairly attractive out. And the individuals I consider to be supremely attractive I've never asked out, because, well, I lack the spine as they say. I did however track down their e-persona, which isn't stalking, i swear...

But neway, yeah, in summation, based on past experience and current expectations, I would say my initial ranking is fairly accurate. Would it be if I were adept at social interaction? Maybe not. But I'm not so it is.

All five of those things are equally important to me.

Tim

This is why I love online dating -- you can get much more of that other information before you commit to meeting someone than you can by meeting people at random.

Ack, grumble.... If the information on online dating sites really is an indication of their personality/interests, I'm averse to most.

Yeah, me too.

Think of it as an early warning system.

This is why I also like online dating.

Tim

Nah. Most people seem to lie on them.
I get SO much more out of being around
someone - even only briefly. Just listening
to someone, and smelling them is pretty
damned good for me. I don't think that
I've made a mistake based on that.

A lot of people, even with similar views
and interests, just don't seem right, in the
least. I HAVE found that watching interactions
here, and on other fora, gives me an idea
of a person. Only met a couple in person,
but I think that their posts coincide with
what I've thought of them by smell.

Calandale, that sounds like synesthesia, but you're not coupling two physical senses. Just an emotion and a sense. Is there a term for that?

I don't know, but that's not quite
it. I'm not linking the emotion
directly to the smell (or taste,
damned near - though it happens
at a distance, so that seems wrong).

No more than watching someone
links directly to the emotions. It's
simply a way of telling what kind
of person that they are. If they'll
be honest with me (absolutely
vital). Also, if they have any power.

I know this sounds like BS, and I'm
a fruitcake, but I'm only trying to
explain. It's worked damned well
for me. Though, I sometimes ignore
what it tells me.

Perfume and makeup mess with it.

Calandale, I don't look in person anything like the character portrayed on these forums.

I'd guess few do. I mean, everything
I reveal about myself is true, but the
contradictions are irreconcilable without
knowing me.