Board index › Coping in life › Love and Dating

Should I be disappointed that my gf makes fancy dinners?

Page 2 of 7 [ 105 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2, 3, 4, 5 ... 7  Next

Previous topic | Next topic

Pepe
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 11 Jun 2013
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 26,635
Location: Australia

10 Dec 2021, 5:54 am

ironpony wrote:
Well it's just that I cannot afford to go out to eat every time. But at the same time, I want to do more than just have a 2 hour long cooking session, and eat and that's the whole date. Can't we just have a 20 minute dinner and then go out and do something else with our time, is what I am wondering.


I'll give you 2 donkeys an 4 sheep for her. :mrgreen:



ironpony
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 3 Nov 2015
Age: 41
Posts: 5,590
Location: canada

10 Dec 2021, 9:21 am

cyberdad wrote:
ironpony wrote:
But at the same time, I want to do more than just have a 2 hour long cooking session, and eat and that's the whole date. Can't we just have a 20 minute dinner and then go out and do something else with our time, is what I am wondering.


Hmmm maybe something to consider if you want to take this relationship to the next level. It does sound a little strange her fixation with cooking herself. My sister is fanatic about cooking her own food and sourcing buying her own ingredients which means she's a pain to live with.


Well she just really loves cooking she said.



kraftiekortie
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Feb 2014
Gender: Male
Posts: 87,510
Location: Queens, NYC

10 Dec 2021, 9:25 am

I guess I wouldn't mind eating out, seeing a movie, rather than just stay home and have dinner.

Are you forced to help out in the kitchen when she cooks?

In truth, I really don't care too much if my lover is a great cook. Though I experienced feeling really good after intimacy when my lover cooked me a bacon and egg sandwich on a roll.



cyberdad
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Feb 2011
Age: 58
Gender: Male
Posts: 36,036

10 Dec 2021, 8:22 pm

ironpony wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
ironpony wrote:
But at the same time, I want to do more than just have a 2 hour long cooking session, and eat and that's the whole date. Can't we just have a 20 minute dinner and then go out and do something else with our time, is what I am wondering.


Hmmm maybe something to consider if you want to take this relationship to the next level. It does sound a little strange her fixation with cooking herself. My sister is fanatic about cooking her own food and sourcing buying her own ingredients which means she's a pain to live with.


Well she just really loves cooking she said.


You may have to train her ironpony. I can tell you from experience home cooked 24-7 means you are going to spending 1-2 hrs a day in the fresh produce market and weekends sourcing one ingredient here and another there.



cyberdad
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Feb 2011
Age: 58
Gender: Male
Posts: 36,036

10 Dec 2021, 8:24 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I guess I wouldn't mind eating out, seeing a movie, rather than just stay home and have dinner.


It's a balance isn't it. I think My wife and I have home cooked Mon - Thurs and then have a mix of cooked/take out Frid-Sun,



IsabellaLinton
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Nov 2017
Gender: Female
Posts: 72,433
Location: Chez Quis

10 Dec 2021, 9:07 pm

Do you only see her in the evenings?

What if you spend whole weekends together?

Also is she interested in movies and outings, or is she more of a homebody overall?


_________________
I never give you my number, I only give you my situation.
Beatles


cyberdad
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Feb 2011
Age: 58
Gender: Male
Posts: 36,036

10 Dec 2021, 10:24 pm

Actually "train" is the wrong word. I could never train my wife.

Compromise between your need to go out and do something different every so often with her need to live in her kitchen.



IsabellaLinton
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Nov 2017
Gender: Female
Posts: 72,433
Location: Chez Quis

10 Dec 2021, 10:31 pm

There's four ways to resolve any problem with a partner.

- Do it your way (stop having fancy dinners)
- Do it their way (continue having fancy dinners)
- Make a compromise (fancy dinners on certain days, alternating etc)
- Make a totally new plan together (only see each other in the morning or hire a chef)


_________________
I never give you my number, I only give you my situation.
Beatles


cyberdad
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Feb 2011
Age: 58
Gender: Male
Posts: 36,036

10 Dec 2021, 10:39 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
There's four ways to resolve any problem with a partner.

- Do it your way (stop having fancy dinners)
- Do it their way (continue having fancy dinners)
- Make a compromise (fancy dinners on certain days, alternating etc)
- Make a totally new plan together (only see each other in the morning or hire a chef)


Number 3



ironpony
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 3 Nov 2015
Age: 41
Posts: 5,590
Location: canada

11 Dec 2021, 1:04 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Do you only see her in the evenings?

What if you spend whole weekends together?

Also is she interested in movies and outings, or is she more of a homebody overall?


We do not have the same days off because of our jobs, so yes I only see her evenings pretty much.



ironpony
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 3 Nov 2015
Age: 41
Posts: 5,590
Location: canada

11 Dec 2021, 1:27 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
There's four ways to resolve any problem with a partner.

- Do it your way (stop having fancy dinners)
- Do it their way (continue having fancy dinners)
- Make a compromise (fancy dinners on certain days, alternating etc)
- Make a totally new plan together (only see each other in the morning or hire a chef)


The third one sounds good I just have to find a way to get her to comprehend a faster comfort food dinner over a long elaborate one.



cyberdad
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Feb 2011
Age: 58
Gender: Male
Posts: 36,036

11 Dec 2021, 4:48 am

ironpony wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
There's four ways to resolve any problem with a partner.

- Do it your way (stop having fancy dinners)
- Do it their way (continue having fancy dinners)
- Make a compromise (fancy dinners on certain days, alternating etc)
- Make a totally new plan together (only see each other in the morning or hire a chef)


The third one sounds good I just have to find a way to get her to comprehend a faster comfort food dinner over a long elaborate one.


Nothing like burgers and beer



Pepe
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 11 Jun 2013
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 26,635
Location: Australia

11 Dec 2021, 6:48 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
There's four ways to resolve any problem with a partner.

- Do it your way (stop having fancy dinners)
- Do it their way (continue having fancy dinners)
- Make a compromise (fancy dinners on certain days, alternating etc)
- Make a totally new plan together (only see each other in the morning or hire a chef)


If she can't compromise, ponyman has a problem. 8O



cyberdad
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Feb 2011
Age: 58
Gender: Male
Posts: 36,036

11 Dec 2021, 8:08 pm

Pepe wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
There's four ways to resolve any problem with a partner.

- Do it your way (stop having fancy dinners)
- Do it their way (continue having fancy dinners)
- Make a compromise (fancy dinners on certain days, alternating etc)
- Make a totally new plan together (only see each other in the morning or hire a chef)


If she can't compromise, ponyman has a problem. 8O


Which is not such a big deal, compromise is part of every intimate relationship.



enz
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 26 Sep 2015
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,622

11 Dec 2021, 8:36 pm

Does she know you really really want to do other things?



cyberdad
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Feb 2011
Age: 58
Gender: Male
Posts: 36,036

11 Dec 2021, 8:37 pm

enz wrote:
Does she know you really really want to do other things?


Yeah, he said he told her.