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Which Tier Do You Fall Into?
Top Tier 23%  23%  [ 5 ]
Middle or Normie Tier 36%  36%  [ 8 ]
Bottom Tier 41%  41%  [ 9 ]
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18 Dec 2021, 2:27 pm

Why do so many people think this is about looks and not personality? He mentioned little about neither in his OP.



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18 Dec 2021, 2:30 pm

Nades wrote:
Why do so many people think this is about looks and not personality? He mentioned little about neither in his OP.


"The top tier are those that have dating fairly easy; they're the chads, the stacys, the young attractive women, the tall good looking successful men, etc... "

These are the only positive attributes described in any of the tiers. Unless of course you count being promiscuous as a desirable trait / opportunity.

These attributes are in the top tier. The other tiers are described as lacking what the top tier has.


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18 Dec 2021, 2:36 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Nades wrote:
Why do so many people think this is about looks and not personality? He mentioned little about neither in his OP.


"The top tier are those that have dating fairly easy; they're the chads, the stacys, the young attractive women, the tall good looking successful men, etc... "

These are the only positive attributes described in any of the tiers. Unless of course you count being promiscuous as a desirable trait / opportunity.

These attributes are in the top tier. The other tiers are described as lacking what the top tier has.


Isn't it obvious that being attractive is a helpful trait that makes dating easier though?



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18 Dec 2021, 2:47 pm

Nades wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
Nades wrote:
Why do so many people think this is about looks and not personality? He mentioned little about neither in his OP.


"The top tier are those that have dating fairly easy; they're the chads, the stacys, the young attractive women, the tall good looking successful men, etc... "

These are the only positive attributes described in any of the tiers. Unless of course you count being promiscuous as a desirable trait / opportunity.

These attributes are in the top tier. The other tiers are described as lacking what the top tier has.


Isn't it obvious that being attractive is a helpful trait that makes dating easier though?


It makes it much easier to be used, exploited, or deceived by people who only care about looks.

Some people are even afraid of dating men / women who are overly good looking.

They're often judged as being cold or arrogant or unobtainable, even shallow -- and no one asks them out.

Looks have nothing to do with a person's longterm value or the intentions of those who ask them out.


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18 Dec 2021, 2:53 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Nades wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
Nades wrote:
Why do so many people think this is about looks and not personality? He mentioned little about neither in his OP.


"The top tier are those that have dating fairly easy; they're the chads, the stacys, the young attractive women, the tall good looking successful men, etc... "

These are the only positive attributes described in any of the tiers. Unless of course you count being promiscuous as a desirable trait / opportunity.

These attributes are in the top tier. The other tiers are described as lacking what the top tier has.


Isn't it obvious that being attractive is a helpful trait that makes dating easier though?


It makes it much easier to be used, exploited, or deceived by people who only care about looks.

Some people are even afraid of dating men / women who are overly good looking.

They're often judged as being cold or arrogant or unobtainable, even shallow -- and no one asks them out.

Looks have nothing to do with a person's longterm value or the intentions of those who ask them out.


They often don't but the whole context of this thread isn't really about relationships 1, 5 or 20 years down the line but merely the ease at which someone can start one. Often looks play a role but so does socioeconomics and social skills.



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18 Dec 2021, 3:00 pm

Fair enough.

I still wouldn't want someone to date me based on my looks, my money, or my social impression.

Likewise, I wouldn't use the term "market value", or rank people into preconceived categories that have nothing to do with their personality or their respect for others.


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18 Dec 2021, 3:15 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Fair enough.

I still wouldn't want someone to date me based on my looks, my money, or my social impression.

Likewise, I wouldn't use the term "market value", or rank people into preconceived categories that have nothing to do with their personality or their respect for others.


People often do base someone's value on those criteria and judge people accordingly. There is some element of truth to it. Often people who look after their bodies look after their education and employment too. If someone appears to have "let themselves go" physically then it might be a sign that someone thing is wrong with their personality.

If someone walks into a club weighing 300+ pounds then the first impression I get is "damn, what's happened with him/her to result in that level of obesity?" On the other side of the coin, if someone walks into a club looking slim and healthy then I immediately think their attention to detail extends beyond just their looks.

Very roughly speaking this is often the case. There are no shortage obese men and women with no educational attainments who smoke 50 a day on council estates but finding a slim, toned woman who smokes 50 a day with no high school qualifications to her name living in the same place is a much harder task!! !



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18 Dec 2021, 3:19 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Nades wrote:
Why do so many people think this is about looks and not personality? He mentioned little about neither in his OP.


"The top tier are those that have dating fairly easy; they're the chads, the stacys, the young attractive women, the tall good looking successful men, etc... "

These are the only positive attributes described in any of the tiers. Unless of course you count being promiscuous as a desirable trait / opportunity.

These attributes are in the top tier. The other tiers are described as lacking what the top tier has.


He lost me at the first paragraph. Nobody has named their daughters Stacy in 40 years.


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18 Dec 2021, 3:21 pm

I live on a council estate. And there are some very slim, toned women around. Admittedly rare. I'm talkin visible abs slim. But kinda bad personality. Always getting into trouble. I'm talkin police knowing them on a first name basis trouble.


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18 Dec 2021, 3:51 pm

A “Stacy,” in the Incel world, is the female equivalent of a “Chad.”



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18 Dec 2021, 4:54 pm

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He lost me at the first paragraph. Nobody has named their daughters Stacy in 40 years.


Lol.

I had a Stacy in my class in high school. Blonde, early 90s hairspray high fringe and perm. She must be 40 now.



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18 Dec 2021, 5:06 pm

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Blonde, early 90s , yeah, i don't know anybody called Stacy. Or Chad for that matter. Maybe it's an American thing.


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18 Dec 2021, 5:21 pm

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Blonde, early 90s , yeah, i don't know anybody called Stacy. Or Chad for that matter. Maybe it's an American thing.


I'm old enough to know some Stacies and at least one Chad :lol: And remember when that Simpsons episode first aired :heart:



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18 Dec 2021, 5:46 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Fair enough.

I still wouldn't want someone to date me based on my looks, my money, or my social impression.

Likewise, I wouldn't use the term "market value", or rank people into preconceived categories that have nothing to do with their personality or their respect for others.



I hate to break it to you but most of us choose partners based on shallow reasons.

At the end of the day, looks matter, and this is ESPECIALLY true for those under 30, and especially under 25. If you look good, you get more opportunities, it's as simple as that.



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18 Dec 2021, 5:51 pm

I'm not saying they don't matter at all, but it's more important to know whether someone's compatible or not.

This is based largely on their creep factor, and how they treat other human beings.


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18 Dec 2021, 5:56 pm

IsabellaLinton wrote:
I'm not saying they don't matter at all, but it's more important to know whether someone's compatible or not.

This is based largely on their creep factor, and how they treat other human beings.


What is the creep factor exactly?