QFT wrote:
So, in October, I met a woman from Britain on dating site. We spoke for 2 weeks and everything was going smoothly. Then, 2 weeks later, I decided to cuss her out because I was mad at a waitress here in the US for not talking to me. Of course this had nothing to do with her, but that is how I roll sometimes. Surprisingly, she was super patient. She even spent over an hour giving me feedback about the waitress. Then, 2 days later, I yelled at her again. This time it was because I was behind on the grading. Yes she could tell that I was mad at something other htan her because she asked, and I told her. She said she understands how stressful it can be and, as a teacher, she has been there too. She wished me luck catching up and said she hopes I get some rest. Then an hour later she leaves me a skype message saying she won't date me because he "has an impression" I will "always" take things out on her.
Dude! it should be self-evident you have some problems with regulating your emotions. "That's how I roll"? this is a major stumbling block and I can tell you most single women do not feel comfortable with a man who externalises their internal frustrations on them. They won't sign up to be a punching bag.
If I was to list the top 5 things a woman doesn't like about a man then being the target of their aggression would be up there. You are going to have to include this in the many things you have posted about over the years that you need to work on. I am worried though, whether you have conditioned yourself to respond to work/social stress this way. I think you may need to seek professional help on this one.
05 Feb 2022, 7:15 pm
