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18 Feb 2022, 5:17 am

I'm not interested in a significant other relationship, just friendships.
I can barely look after myself. lol

There is no real reason to have a coupling relationship, at my age.
I was never interested in starting a family.
Procreating is one of my worst nightmares so that just leaves a bit of slap and tickle without the follow-through. lol

The other problem is, sex is much too personal to share with anyone. ;)

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I'm just a bachelor boy, and that's the way I'll stay...;)



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18 Feb 2022, 6:14 am

Pepe wrote:
I'm not interested in a significant other relationship, just friendships.
I can barely look after myself. lol

There is no real reason to have a coupling relationship, at my age.
I was never interested in starting a family.
Procreating is one of my worst nightmares so that just leaves a bit of slap and tickle without the follow-through. lol

The other problem is, sex is much too personal to share with anyone. ;)

So...
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I'm just a bachelor boy, and that's the way I'll stay...;)

If you can barely look after yourself, that's a good reason to have a partner to help.


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18 Feb 2022, 7:44 am

Benjamin the Donkey wrote:
Pepe wrote:
I'm not interested in a significant other relationship, just friendships.
I can barely look after myself. lol

There is no real reason to have a coupling relationship, at my age.
I was never interested in starting a family.
Procreating is one of my worst nightmares so that just leaves a bit of slap and tickle without the follow-through. lol

The other problem is, sex is much too personal to share with anyone. ;)

So...
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I'm just a bachelor boy, and that's the way I'll stay...;)

If you can barely look after yourself, that's a good reason to have a partner to help.


Then there is the emotional turmoil to consider.
Who here hasn't experienced extensive emotional angst when in a significant other relationship?
Who here hasn't experienced the devastating sense of loss with a breakup if they have been involved?

My entire focus is to maintain emotional stability.
A significant other relationship is definitely *not* the way to go. ;)

I have been in luv twice in my life.
Once romantically...
Once platonically...
I never want to experience that degree of emotional pain ever again, thank you very much. 8O

Besides, the romantic luv mechanism is simply a chemical reaction in the brain designed to make people stupid, usually with the intention of encouraging the mating process.
Oxytocin is *not* your friend. 8O :wink:



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18 Feb 2022, 8:30 am

Quote:
I'm outta love
Set me free
And let me out this misery




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18 Feb 2022, 8:33 pm

Yes.
Too much trouble, too much baggage, too little time, too old, too lazy ,too many dogs, too broke, and so on….


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19 Feb 2022, 4:19 am

Misslizard wrote:
Yes.
Too much trouble, too much baggage, too little time, too old, too lazy ,too many dogs, too broke, and so on….


It is not the be-all and end-all that society pretends it to be.

I honestly don't get lonely so a single life suits me.
No compromising of personal freedoms.
I really don't understand what so many people see in a significant other relationship.
But, hey, I'm autistic. ;)



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19 Feb 2022, 4:54 am

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
sometimes someone meets their future spouse after age forty. however, it is also good to know when to continue trying and when to give up. dating takes a lot of time, cash, and energy, that you might choose to spend/waste/invest on other activities. every situation is different. i am 38 with zero romantic prospects. while that is not ideal, some things are just not worth the cost benefit analysis.

succinctly expressed.



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19 Feb 2022, 4:56 am

Benjamin the Donkey wrote:
If you can barely look after yourself, that's a good reason to have a partner to help.

an impossible ask for some. this would have to be a different world altogether with different humans.



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19 Feb 2022, 4:58 am

theprisoner wrote:
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I am currently in relationship though but I have a feeling that it will be the last.


Nothing lasts forever. Well, except true love.

where does one find "true love" this side of heaven?



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19 Feb 2022, 4:58 am

i didn't choose to be permanently single but it seems long ago to have chosen me. :| i hope someday soon it de-chooses me.



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19 Feb 2022, 5:11 am

auntblabby wrote:
Benjamin the Donkey wrote:
If you can barely look after yourself, that's a good reason to have a partner to help.

an impossible ask for some. this would have to be a different world altogether with different humans.


Consider:
What sort of relationship would Benji be describing?
A needy, dependent one?
Sounds like it. :scratch:
Pass. ;)



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19 Feb 2022, 5:13 am

Pepe wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
Benjamin the Donkey wrote:
If you can barely look after yourself, that's a good reason to have a partner to help.

an impossible ask for some. this would have to be a different world altogether with different humans.


Consider:
What sort of relationship would Benji be describing?
A needy, dependent one?
Sounds like it. :scratch:
Pass. ;)

call me what you will, but i crave just a relationship, where somebody actually NEEDS me around and VALUES me. in the next lifetime it'll happen. just you watch. ;)



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19 Feb 2022, 5:14 am

somebody forgot to bring along the laugh track. :|



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19 Feb 2022, 6:08 am

auntblabby wrote:
in the next lifetime it'll happen. just you watch. ;)

auntblabby finds a genie in a lamp, rubs the lamp and asks, "I wish for my next lifetime". Genie complies and doubles auntblabby's present life.

:lol:



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19 Feb 2022, 6:28 am

r00tb33r wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
in the next lifetime it'll happen. just you watch. ;)

auntblabby finds a genie in a lamp, rubs the lamp and asks, "I wish for my next lifetime". Genie complies and doubles auntblabby's present life.

:lol:

sounds like a primo twilight zone episode ;)