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cyberdad
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08 Jun 2022, 1:42 am

Where to from here?

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08 Jun 2022, 4:58 am

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Recently, I heard that a guy in my class wants to date me. His friend told me that he wanted my number. I don't believe it because it didn't come from him directly. It could also be true, but if it is, it is probably the lamest way to ask someone out. I've caught this guy staring at me a few times already, and even talking about me to his friends. If he decides to ask me out directly, either I will reject him or accept, and then date him temporarily. I was friends with this guy months ago, then we had a fight and I haven't talked to him since then. What he is doing is just out of the ordinary and weird. His friend started a dating rumour between me and him, or maybe he started it. So, what should I do?

So you were friends for some period of time during which you never suspected he might be interested in you?

Yes but way before that, I had feelings for him. Maybe I still do, but I'm scared to confess as I might embarras myself

Don’t you think you’ll regret not going out with him realising he liked you and moving to different areas more than being embarrassed by liking the opposite sex?

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08 Jun 2022, 9:45 am

I mean I'll have to talk to him. If what his friend is saying is true, why would he have his friend tell me all this. I wrote him an apology letter to him, apologizing for the sh***y things I said in that fight we had. Hopefully he read it. I literally cried my eyes out yesterday because this situation I am in reminds of a similar situation that happened few years back.

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08 Jun 2022, 10:06 am

Be careful. It was a common "joke" back in high school to tell a lie to the lonely kids that someone else was interested in them, only for the kids to get humiliated when they approached the "interested" person and found out the truth -- that there was never any such interest.

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08 Jun 2022, 10:13 am

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That happened to me in 6th grade, so I'm trying to be careful. This situation brings back those memories. I was harrassed by the "interested" person. They took pics of me without my consent and forced me to kiss my best friend and classmates. This current situation brings back this trauma.

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08 Jun 2022, 10:15 am

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Then you know what I referred to. I will never understand why some people seem to think it is "funny".

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08 Jun 2022, 10:42 am

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So cruel. Did you manage to report that to authority figures?

I can understand why you're being cautious about your current situation.

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08 Jun 2022, 10:45 am

Then I'll confront the friend and tell him that this sick prank isn't going to go anywhere. Either he tells me the truth, or he doesn't. Either way, he is trying to ruin things between me and this guy, and I won't stand any of that bs.

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08 Jun 2022, 10:46 am

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So cruel. Did you manage to report that to authority figures?

I can understand why you're being cautious about your current situation.

Yes I did, but it didn't help that much

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08 Jun 2022, 10:56 am

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So cruel. Did you manage to report that to authority figures? I can understand why you're being cautious about your current situation.

Yes I did, but it didn't help that much

Did you get the "Boys will be boys" excuse, or something like that?

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08 Jun 2022, 10:57 am

skrish234 wrote:

I wouldn't bother approaching the friend if he's trolling you.

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08 Jun 2022, 2:16 pm

Should I confront the guy and tell him the truth about the current situation?

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09 Jun 2022, 1:11 am

I'll give advice, but bear in mind it may not be the best.

Depends on what kind of person he is...if he's a nice guy then I'd say yes, approach him if you feel comfortable with it. Bring up the letter you wrote to him. Tell him what his friend said. If he confirms he does in fact like you and wants to exchange numbers then go for it if you really want to.

In my experience, 9/10 the guy likes you if his friend has expressed it to you. And 8/10 the guy eventually approached me himself.

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09 Jun 2022, 2:46 pm

The guy didn't actually have feelings for me. He did accept my apology. I knew from the beginning that his friend made up stuff about us. I told the guy about it and he agreed with me that it wasn't ok. His friend confronted me and then denied everything. Plus the friend is harassing me as well.

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10 Jun 2022, 3:31 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Teen girls and their stupid games….sigh, brings me memories.

Glad I am no longer a teen.

I would much rather the 3rd grade approach to dating :arrow:

Quote:

Do you love me, do you wanna be my friend?
And if you do
Well then don't be afraid to take me by the hand
If you want to
I think this is how love goes, check yes or no

Why cant teens & adults who are supposed to be more mature, be that direct :?:

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10 Jun 2022, 5:24 am

skrish234 wrote:

I'm glad you both managed to chat and clear the air. I'm sorry his feelings aren't mutual.

This pest friend of his, can you report him for harassing you? Even if the outcome is nothing, do report him to an authority figure if you're feeling harassed. Would be great if the other guy could have a word with him.

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