Why are men threatened by a high body count compared to..?

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Well as far as the argument goes that women do not see a high body count on a man as a threat, because a man 'has to work for it' in comparison to women, what's to say that a man with a high body count has no problem working for it, even if it includes cheating?

Or will a man not likely work for it, if he has steak waiting for him at home all the time, so to speak?

Because it's assumed that men will take practically any viable sexual opportunity that comes their way.

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Playing devils advocate, I prefer any woman I meet to have had some experience of sex prior.

I've found people with no sexual experience to be prissy as I've got older. Think they're too good to give into urges and think others who do so are lesser people. Once past a certain age and willingly never done the deed (barring past traumatic experiences) then excessive pride is a likely culprit.

The easiest I find to get along with are the ones who people would describe as "loose women". They're very hard to offend and never spend much time weighing me up. They never care if I'm autisitc because they just want fun for a few minutes and I'm the nearest guy in sight.

There's also the topic of asexuality and partial asexuality.
And, where I live, religiousness.

Those are other factors but the list of factors is pretty much complete with those included.

Once hitting 30 and still being a virgin for religious reasons, said person should consider if their strong convictions are doing them any good or not.

It doesn't matter to me whether a woman has had no previous lovers, or 30 previous lovers.

If she's a nice person, and we get along, and we have fun with each other-----that's all that counts.

if only they weren't threatened by outliers.

No idea on your question. Women can answer that one.

They made a term for me recently, "demisexual", which I just considered normal, albeit, I started to think I was asexual considering how society places so much emphasis on sex as if it's somehow a prerequisite for a deep loving relationship with someone. So for me, I just see it as someone that probably has trouble forming strong emotional bonds, lasting relations, and that's not what I want. Of course, this isn't certain, and someone could have bad luck when it comes to relations, so I'm not all or nothing, not understanding of such.

I don't care about others otherwise. Live and let live and all that. Whether males or females.

A couple of thousand years' cultural history of everyone treating women who aren't lifelong monogamists as literal human garbage? That's going to affect dating attitudes....

Upon what, exactly, do you base these assumptions?

I was just going by women I know who keep going for the guys with a high count.

Perhaps they downplay it?

Perhaps. But why do they ask guys what their numbers are then if that means they are just going to put in a show and downplay it as a result?

Obviously, an extremely limited sample-size, especially when compared to the total number of women in the world.

I think it's to do with the notions of what "norms" are.

Someone can go from one extreme to the other, both well outside the norms but the reasons for doing so matters.

As I said in an earlier post, a woman can have many sexual flings with many partners but I think it doesn't matter much provided in doing so, nobody is messed around or lead on. A woman can also have many sexual partners from many short term failed relationships which could be red flag.

The polar opposite is someone who has had no sexual partners. This could be because if past trauma or like Mags said, being asexual, religious. Alternatively just morally uptight and childish too. All of them could be a problem for a partner wanting intimacy if not addressed but the latter traits is a much bigger red flag.

Chances are though, if someone has had many different partners from a string of failed relationships or is a prissy, childish virgin....nobody will get along with them as potential suitors. Rejection is rejection and happened for a reason.

My boyfriend has been married and divorced twice and has had several short-term girlfriends in between, but I've met his ex-wife and one or two of his ex-girlfriends and they definitely seem they were not compatible with my boyfriend's personality type. He was often used and cheated on. He was brought up in a stable environment by stable parents that taught him to be a gentleman to women, but unfortunately some women take advantage of that. Not me though. I treat him the same as I like to be treated.