No one wants to date me all I get is people wanting fun.

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Some ppl have difficulty progressing psychologically if they haven't "busted their male cherry".
One of the benefits of "busting one's cherry" is being able to realise the whole thing is over-rated and a f*****g joke, pun intended.

I'm pansexual but I prefer guys.
Girls,non binary etc sexually turn me on. But only guys give me both sexual and an emotional attachment feeling too. Maybe I'm gay. I don't know.

I have noticed this when it comes to the women who like me. The only exception was an asexual woman who asked me on a date. However, I didn't like her that way. So just a big mess all around.

For me, I'm put off by 'casual fun' because I haven't even kissed anyone, so jumping to other activities is intimidating. My friends think I should though, but I'm not so convinced.

I wish I had some advice, but sadly I'm lost in this department as well.

You can "save yourself" for somebody who wants to commit to a serious relationship or you can give in to your desire for physical intimacy when nobody like that is available. If that doesn’t meet your standards I suppose you have no cause for complaint as that could take years. I have gotten naked with women younger than you who weren't interested in me as a serious partner, because they were randy and comfortable with me as a bedmate, and at that age I would think the psychological barrier to getting intimate with a near stranger would be higher when that stranger is male. I don't know how different women are from men in this regard, but even an experienced woman should be OK to agree that the first encounter will be limited to snogging. Furthermore, any such casual encounter can lead to something more serious. This point isn't raised often enough.