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"Run, run, Lost Boy", they say to me
"Away from all of reality"
Neverland is home to Lost Boys like me
And Lost Boys like me are free

https://youtu.be/CGvFXrVfaS8

Time is tapping on my forehead
Hanging from my mirror
Rattling the teacups
And I wonder-
How long can I delay?
We're just a habit, like saccharin
And I'm habitually feeling kinda blue
But each time I try on the thought of leaving you
I stop
I stop and think it over


S&G - Overs






https://youtu.be/M4_9uGIo6Ks



S&G - Dangling Conversation

t's a still life watercolor
Of a now-late afternoon
As the sun shines through the curtain lace
And shadows wash the room
And we sit and drink our coffee
Couched in our indifference, like shells upon the shore
You can hear the ocean roar
In the dangling conversation
And the superficial sighs
The borders of our lives

And you read your Emily Dickinson
And I my Robert Frost
And we note our place with book markers
That measure what we've lost
Like a poem poorly written
We are verses out of rhythm
Couplets out of rhyme
In syncopated time
And the dangling conversation
And the superficial sighs
Are the borders of our lives

Yes, we speak of things that matter
With words that must be said
"Can analysis be worthwhile?"
"Is the theatre really dead?"
And how the room is softly faded
And I only kiss your shadow, I cannot feel your hand
You're a stranger now unto me
Lost in the dangling conversation
And the superficial sighs
In the borders of our lives





https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Gh0zFVc6S


Preserve your memories
They're all that's left you


S&G - Bookends

https://youtu.be/hLQl3WQQoQ0


Adele - Someone Like You

I heard that you're settled down
That you found a girl and you're married now
I heard that your dreams came true
Guess she gave you things, I didn't give to you
Old friend, why are you so shy?
Ain't like you to hold back or hide from the light
I hate to turn up out of the blue, uninvited
But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it
I had hoped you'd see my face
And that you'd be reminded that for me, it isn't over
Never mind, I'll find someone like you
I wish nothing but the best for you, too
"Don't forget me, " I beg
I remember you said
"Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead"
"Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead"
You know how the time flies
Only yesterday was the time of our lives
We were born and raised in a summer haze
Bound by the surprise of our glory days
I hate to turn up out of the blue, uninvited
But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it
I had hoped you'd see my face
And that you'd be reminded that for me, it isn't over
Never mind, I'll find someone like you
I wish nothing but the best for you, too
"Don't forget me, " I begged
I remember you said
"Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead"
Nothing compares, no worries or cares
Regrets and mistakes, they're memories made
Who would have known how bittersweet this would taste?
Never mind, I'll find someone like you
I wish nothing but the best for you
"Don't forget me, " I beg
I remember you said
"Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead"
Never mind, I'll find someone like you
I wish nothing but the best for you, too
"Don't forget me, " I begged
I remember you said
"Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead"
"Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead"

I will not make the same mistakes that you did
I will not let myself 'cause my heart so much misery
I will not break the way you did
You fell so hard
I've learned the hard way, to never let it get that far

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side, so I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

I lose my way
And it's not too long before you point it out
I cannot cry
Because I know that's weakness in your eyes
I'm forced to fake a smile, a laugh
Every day of my life
My heart can't possibly break
When it wasn't even whole to start with

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side, so I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

I watched you die (I watched you die)
I heard you cry
Every night in your sleep
I was so young (and you're so young)
You should have known better (I was too young for you)
Than to lean on me
You never thought of anyone else
You just saw your pain (you never saw me)
And now I cry
In the middle of the night
For the same damn thing

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid
Because of you
Because of you

Gawwww,

This reminds me of breaking up with BF3 who was also my best friend.
I really identified with this song.
Now I can see references to the fact I was gaslit, in the lyrics.
I wish I'd known that word at the time.




https://youtu.be/NTvR7HySgHo


We never talked about it
But I hear the blame was mine
And I'd call you up to say I'm sorry
But I wouldn't wanna waste your time
'Cause I love you, but I can't take any more
There's a look I can't describe in your eyes
If we could try, like we tried before
Would you keep on tellin' me those lies?

Do you remember?
Do you remember?

There seemed no way to make up
'Cause it seemed your mind was set
And the way you looked, it told me
It's a look I know I'll never forget

You could've come over to my side
You could've let me know
You could've tried to see the distance between us
But it seemed too far for you to go

Through all of my life
In spite of all the pain
You know, people are funny sometimes
They just can't wait to get hurt again
Tell me, do you remember?

There are things we won't recall
And feelings we'll never find
It's taken so long to see it
'Cause we never seemed to have the time

There was always something more important to do
More important to say
But, "I love you" wasn't one of those things
And now it's too late



Phil Collins - Do You Remember?

Last edited by IsabellaLinton on 26 Jul 2023, 11:05 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Songs that remind me of breakups are songs I try to avoid.

One of my all-time favourite songs, period.




https://youtu.be/-AUCSkHCrwY


Oh Elise it doesn’t matter what you say
I just can’t stay here every yesterday
Like keep on acting out the same
The way we act out
Every way to smile
Forget
And make-believe we never needed
Any more than this
Any more than this

Oh Elise it doesn’t matter what you do
I know I’ll never really get inside of you
To make your eyes catch fire
The way they should
The way the blue could pull me in
If they only would
If they only would

At least I’d lose this sense of sensing something else
That hides away
From me and you
There’re worlds to part
With aching looks and breaking hearts
And all the prayers your hands can make

I just take as much as you can throw
And then throw it all away
I throw it all away
Like throwing faces at the sky
Like throwing arms round
Yesterday
I stood and stared
Wide-eyed in front of you
And the face I saw looked back
The way I wanted to
But I just can’t hold my tears away
The way you do

Elise believe I never wanted this
I thought this time I’d keep all of my promises
I thought you were the girl I always dreamed about
But I let the dream go
And the promises broke
And the make-believe ran out…

So Elise
It doesn’t matter what you say
I just can’t stay here every yesterday
Like keep on acting out the same
The way we act out
Every way to smile
Forget
And make-believe we never needed
Any more than this
Any more than this

And every time I try to pick it up
Like falling sand
As fast as I pick it up
It runs away through my clutching hands
But there’s nothing else I can really do
There’s nothing else I can really do
There’s nothing else
I can really do
At all…



The Cure - A Letter to Elise

Yes, me too.

I actually have to avoid all music when I am feeling emotionally vulnerable because it only intensifies my feelings. I even have to mute songs or prolonged background music when it comes on as part of a TV show I am watching.

As far as things that help, I don't know. Just trying to be in contact with other people.

^I can't even listen to this for that reason, leaves me in bits every time. And it wasn't even a final breakup, just a temporary one.

(About my first serious boyfriend.)

I can't actually listen to this song because it brings me back to the worst day of my life, but I think about it sometimes. I always turn the station when it comes on the radio. The fact that I can post about it is a clear sign of progress.

How many years must a mountain exist
Before it is washed to the sea?
And how many years can some people exist
Before they're allowed to be free?

How many times can a man turn his head
And pretend that he just doesn't see?
The answer, my friend, is blowin' in the wind
The answer is blowin' in the wind

How many times must a man look up
Before he can see the sky?
And how many ears must one man have
Before he can hear people cry?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ghUJeWrX6Y4

I'm not aware of anything that's helpful for me in dealing with breakups or any other form of loss.

I understand the grieving process is different for everyone, but for me I only sometimes have shock then I pass straight on through to a kind of resigned acceptance.

I've never been literally beaten (i.e. no physical abuse), but breakups, rejection, loss, and failure tend to all feel to me like an emotional beating. I just lie there in misery and wait for it to end because it never feels like there is anything I can do about it.