Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
I was in my mid 30's but it didn't last. am still a virgin though I can dream!
It does feel lonely. I do think it is better than those who ended up trapped in relationships that they regretted. But I also think that being left on the shelf feels neglected! Am on the shelf myself.
Really do feel for those who are in a similar situation as hormones are strong and on top of this comes the friendship one desires through having a relationship. The closeness to another person in ways that sex alone can't achieve.
Though sex is something I have desired for decades... But it is the whole package of love... Deep love and feelings to share... Very best friends to overcome lonliness as part of the package. Having someone to be there to help one function. Someone one is close to and loves!
I will write a thread about the helping one function part and what I mean by this... As it is not exactly what some may think.
I am still a virgin too although I came VERY close to sex with my ex-boyfriend Robbie as a teen but I wasn't ready to move beyond making out/passionate kissing and touching
Now I want to say I have had the experience of sex but I haven't found the right man yet!
But it
will happen eventually
It is the fact that I'm lonely that is
pushing me towards finding love and getting married and I am trying to pull myself out of that deep hole I dug myself into
This is part of why I started Day Program
I miss having a companion and shared intimacy too!
Out of interest,what is Day Program? Can the hole be dug out of? (I prefer marriage before sex as the commitment side of having sex... If I have sex which is an extremely strong emotional bond, I would want it to be with someone who would be with me always. Also marriage is a covernant before God).
I think part of the reason why I am single is:
1. I tend to isolate myself. I don't go to places where people meet. For me, I tend to like the less crowded places. Example is my nearest beach which is a walk down a footpath opposite where I live would see around a handful of people a day if that, despite it being a lovely beach. The things I like are beaches, castles and exploring countryside in the car or walks etc...
2. Sadly, I often don't always pick up on hints. So if a lady uses hints I will remember what was said but be puzzled and not connect it to the lady being interested in me. Partly because I do not expect a lady to fancy me despite some saying I would be the ideal catch. Some can't believe how I am single! I can't answer except due to my inability to recognize hints, it means I can't ask ladies out because I may make mistakes. Think I have asked around 15 ladies out in my lifetime and I have only actually properly dated two ladies in my life and they asked me out.
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