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04 Sep 2024, 9:30 pm

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there is a late bloomer facebook group, a woman there made an anonymous post, claims she never had a BF until 38.


You'd be surprised how many women are in that boat, at least if you start from the assumption that it's mostly men in that boat.


lots of people, or most of society, are accustomed to cases like that being male-dominated



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04 Sep 2024, 9:32 pm

My 32 year old cousin has never been in a relationship although she really wants one. I can think of a few other women I know personally who are/were in the same boat. One of them was around 40.


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04 Sep 2024, 10:05 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
there is a late bloomer facebook group, a woman there made an anonymous post, claims she never had a BF until 38.


You'd be surprised how many women are in that boat, at least if you start from the assumption that it's mostly men in that boat.


lots of people, or most of society, are accustomed to cases like that being male-dominated


Lots of people are misinformed idiots though.


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05 Sep 2024, 12:07 pm

TwilightPrincess wrote:
My 32 year old cousin has never been in a relationship although she really wants one. I can think of a few other women I know personally who are/were in the same boat. One of them was around 40.


Yeah I know a woman who is 32 and never been in a relationship. There's no reason why she couldn't find love but she just doesn't want to


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05 Sep 2024, 2:24 pm

babybird wrote:
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My 32 year old cousin has never been in a relationship although she really wants one. I can think of a few other women I know personally who are/were in the same boat. One of them was around 40.


Yeah I know a woman who is 32 and never been in a relationship. There's no reason why she couldn't find love but she just doesn't want to


Laziness and Complacency

It is much easier to stay in your comfort zone instead of venturing out into the unknown and taking a chance on something

(in this case, going out to date men)



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05 Sep 2024, 2:49 pm

Would laziness be the reason why a 32 year old man can’t find love?



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05 Sep 2024, 5:56 pm

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Would laziness be the reason why a 32 year old man can’t find love?


Absolutely!! !

100%! !!

Complacency too...



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05 Sep 2024, 6:03 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
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My 32 year old cousin has never been in a relationship although she really wants one. I can think of a few other women I know personally who are/were in the same boat. One of them was around 40.


Yeah I know a woman who is 32 and never been in a relationship. There's no reason why she couldn't find love but she just doesn't want to


Laziness and Complacency

It is much easier to stay in your comfort zone instead of venturing out into the unknown and taking a chance on something

(in this case, going out to date men)


Those are often factors, but to present them as the only factor is to oversimplify the problem.

Mental health concerns can be a significant factor. So can lack of suitable partners. Same with elements of one's lifestyle, like being a shut-in or the hours one has to work. Poor social skills or obvious antisocial personality traits can be a factor too.


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05 Sep 2024, 6:24 pm

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My 32 year old cousin has never been in a relationship although she really wants one. I can think of a few other women I know personally who are/were in the same boat. One of them was around 40.


yeah, should be obvious as to why most people are used to cases like this being male-dominated



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05 Sep 2024, 6:48 pm

That notion seems to be “obvious” to some people who are relying on their own experience with a generous helping of confirmation bias.

Women also struggle with finding partners and loneliness as do nonbinary folks.


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05 Sep 2024, 7:23 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Laziness and Complacency
It is much easier to stay in your comfort zone instead of venturing out into the unknown and taking a chance on something

(in this case, going out to date men)


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Those are often factors, but to present them as the only factor is to oversimplify the problem.

Mental health concerns can be a significant factor. So can lack of suitable partners. Same with elements of one's lifestyle, like being a shut-in or the hours one has to work. Poor social skills or obvious antisocial personality traits can be a factor too.


That is true and I will admit I might be over-simplifying the issue

There are MANY different possible variables to consider to explain why someone cannot find love

But they help explain and help contribute to the overall problem!! !

What do you think is the actual root cause?



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05 Sep 2024, 7:41 pm

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What do you think is the actual root cause?


Like I was saying, I don't think there's just one. I think there's a bunch that tend to stack and that's part of the reason why people can always find counter-examples to disprove any single cause that gets proposed.

There's an element of chance as well. People who have lots of social interactions with lots of people are more likely to meet potential partners. People who are in constant close company have lots of interactions with the potential to develop romantically, meaning sometimes even people who wouldn't have hit it off in another environment can sometimes develop into a couple even if the environment discourages it (like say in a workplace).

Basically, the more one rolls the dice the better their chances of finding someone will be, even if a bunch of other factors aren't really in their favour.


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05 Sep 2024, 9:50 pm

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That notion seems to be “obvious” to some people who are relying on their own experience with a generous helping of confirmation bias.

Women also struggle with finding partners and loneliness as do nonbinary folks.


i assume its possible for women to still be single like that in their 40s and 50s too or older, its just that, most of those women i doubt would bother to disclose that.



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05 Sep 2024, 10:05 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
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What do you think is the actual root cause?


Like I was saying, I don't think there's just one. I think there's a bunch that tend to stack and that's part of the reason why people can always find counter-examples to disprove any single cause that gets proposed.

There's an element of chance as well. People who have lots of social interactions with lots of people are more likely to meet potential partners. People who are in constant close company have lots of interactions with the potential to develop romantically, meaning sometimes even people who wouldn't have hit it off in another environment can sometimes develop into a couple even if the environment discourages it (like say in a workplace).

Basically, the more one rolls the dice the better their chances of finding someone will be, even if a bunch of other factors aren't really in their favour.


It really is just a numbers game!! !

Probability plays a MAJOR role too!

However, online dating levels the playing field I think...



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06 Sep 2024, 4:52 pm

I would say yes, for someone who is 67 to have never been in a relationship, it is rather unusual. Probably less than 5% of the population would fall into that category.



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06 Sep 2024, 6:00 pm

First I would say there is not a universal rule that is applicable to all males; the dude might be asexual.