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18 Feb 2025, 4:22 pm

to quote the British royal family - "keep calm and don't panic"
I'm afraid nothing turns people off more than desperation.

Desperation makes you anxious and too eager. Something I wish I knew when I was young.



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21 Feb 2025, 2:37 am

Do you want to get married, or just date?

I didn't get married until I was 32 and didn't have much dating experience before. My best friend from high school didn't get married until he was 43. Both of our marriages seem to be working out pretty well.



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21 Feb 2025, 2:04 pm

Pink Zeppelin wrote:
Do you want to get married, or just date?

I didn't get married until I was 32 and didn't have much dating experience before. My best friend from high school didn't get married until he was 43. Both of our marriages seem to be working out pretty well.


Just to date rather than getting married but I seem to as someone in my 30s I can't hang around dating unlike if you were 20 or 25 and that I've got to settle soon when it seems like I am clearly not mentally ready to settle down.



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21 Feb 2025, 6:05 pm

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Just to date rather than getting married but I seem to as someone in my 30s I can't hang around dating unlike if you were 20 or 25 and that I've got to settle soon when it seems like I am clearly not mentally ready to settle down.


It's important to be in the right frame of mind to be prepared to settle down. Not to mention be prepared financially.



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21 Feb 2025, 7:01 pm

cyberdora wrote:
chris1989 wrote:
Just to date rather than getting married but I seem to as someone in my 30s I can't hang around dating unlike if you were 20 or 25 and that I've got to settle soon when it seems like I am clearly not mentally ready to settle down.


It's important to be in the right frame of mind to be prepared to settle down. Not to mention be prepared financially.


Yeah I am engaged but I might STILL not fully be mature enough for marriage yet!! !



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21 Feb 2025, 7:54 pm

Please take your time. the only issue might be your biological clock if you want kids, otherwise just be patient and let things develop.



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21 Feb 2025, 10:17 pm

cyberdora wrote:
Please take your time. the only issue might be your biological clock if you want kids, otherwise just be patient and let things develop.


I know

Actually...I might be pregnant right now possibly!! !



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21 Feb 2025, 10:26 pm

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Is it my imagination or have you changed your attitude to relationships etc


No not at all, well except for viewing marriage as voluntary imprisonment

I am just so TIRED of the media & society constantly propping up marriage, sex, motherhood etc like their end goal is to get EVERYONE IN THE WORLD married and have children!! !

It's a conspiracy...



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22 Feb 2025, 9:34 am

cyberdora wrote:
Please take your time. the only issue might be your biological clock if you want kids, otherwise just be patient and let things develop.


I don't know if it is a biological clock or just being too over aware of time. I don't know if men go through the same mentality as women with the feeling the need to start having kids their mid/late 20s onwards.



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22 Feb 2025, 6:15 pm

It's basically the same. Normally your future wife is going to be roughly the same age so effectively if you are in your mid-30s then she's going to be around that age.



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24 Feb 2025, 9:29 am

cyberdora wrote:
It's basically the same. Normally your future wife is going to be roughly the same age so effectively if you are in your mid-30s then she's going to be around that age.


Well I'm aspiring to meet someone who is a bit younger than me maybe late 20s or early 30s. I don't feel like just dating people at the same age as myself.



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24 Feb 2025, 3:58 pm

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Well I'm aspiring to meet someone who is a bit younger than me maybe late 20s or early 30s. I don't feel like just dating people at the same age as myself.


Good luck, I was 35 when I got married. My wife was 34. I went through a phase in my early 30s hanging around 18-19 years old female friends many of whom thought it was cool to have a male friend who was working and wore a suit. My ignorance was believing I had a chance getting one of them to be my g/f. Not saying its not possible. Just really really hard for it to work.



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24 Feb 2025, 6:40 pm

cyberdora wrote:
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Well I'm aspiring to meet someone who is a bit younger than me maybe late 20s or early 30s. I don't feel like just dating people at the same age as myself.


Good luck, I was 35 when I got married. My wife was 34. I went through a phase in my early 30s hanging around 18-19 years old female friends many of whom thought it was cool to have a male friend who was working and wore a suit. My ignorance was believing I had a chance getting one of them to be my g/f. Not saying its not possible. Just really really hard for it to work.


Well I am living proof that it IS possible!! !

David is 10 years older than me



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24 Feb 2025, 10:58 pm

chris1989 wrote:
cyberdora wrote:
Please take your time. the only issue might be your biological clock if you want kids, otherwise just be patient and let things develop.


I don't know if it is a biological clock or just being too over aware of time. I don't know if men go through the same mentality as women with the feeling the need to start having kids their mid/late 20s onwards.


Men can pretty much become a father at any age. Usually Men's value increases with age up until about 50 or so as they become more successful in their careers.



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25 Feb 2025, 12:11 am

From my own personal experience and what I've heard from other men, online dating doesn't work anymore. Unless you are a super hot guy with a good job no one is interested. Best to meet someone naturally I think, but that then brings up the question, how do people meet these days? And unfortunately I am still trying to figure out the answer for myself.



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25 Feb 2025, 3:00 am

Pink Zeppelin wrote:
chris1989 wrote:
cyberdora wrote:
Please take your time. the only issue might be your biological clock if you want kids, otherwise just be patient and let things develop.


I don't know if it is a biological clock or just being too over aware of time. I don't know if men go through the same mentality as women with the feeling the need to start having kids their mid/late 20s onwards.


Men can pretty much become a father at any age. Usually Men's value increases with age up until about 50 or so as they become more successful in their careers.


Men can father kids as old as 90. It doesn't mean there's a line of 21 yr olds who are at the prime of fertility waiting to have a child with grandpa.