14 Oct 2025, 7:05 pm
Mikurotoro92 wrote:
LilyMoon wrote:
Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Maybe we aren't really meant to have romantic relationships and our default state is to be alone?
I know the purpose of romantic relationships and marriage is to create & build connection to another person through investment but investing too much is VERY DANGEROUS because of the Sunk-Cost Fallacy!! !
Really THINK long & hard about if you want to get married...
I know the purpose of romantic relationships and marriage is to create & build connection to another person through investment but investing too much is VERY DANGEROUS because of the Sunk-Cost Fallacy!! !
Really THINK long & hard about if you want to get married...
Very good advice. I think the idea of marriage is a paradox. Humans want connection and family, but they also want freedom. So the idea that you get married to someone when you're young expecting that you're going to stay together for decades is flawed. Historically, marriage has been a financial arrangement and only recently had anything to do with love. The way the economy is going, I think we might be heading towards more of a group polyromantic dynamic simply because "y'all going to have to live together anyway cuz you can't afford to live by yourself." If I could go back and do it all over again, I would have married my best friend and just allowed an open relationship. You can have the physical stuff with anybody. It's really hard to find somebody you enjoy talking with.
As much as I want & desire it there is no denying the awful truth...
Marriage is Imprisonment!! ! ! ! !
You voluntarily imprison yourself when you make the choice to get married!! !
That's what you are really doing but people are blinded to that fact because they are either corrupted by the Sunk-Cost Fallacy, corrupted by the prospect of a wedding ceremony or corrupted by the so-called "honeymoon stage" of a romantic relationship!
Maybe even all 3
What are your thoughts about my analysis @LilyMoon?
EDIT: Honestly, anything involving a long-term contract equals imprisonment
I am thinking of possibly pursuing an animation and voice acting career but I KNOW contracts are definitely involved there!! !
However, those are both careers so having contracts makes sense in those environments
ESPECIALLY for doing voice-overs & animation for a long-running cartoon television series like SpongeBob SquarePants or The Simpsons
The writers and voice actors knew what they were signing up for
What I am getting at is this:
I believe we need to do away with contracts in marriage
Let the couple decide and determine the length of their relationship instead of predetermining it with a contract!! !
This means less chance of becoming imprisoned!
NO MORE "until death do you part"
In fact, I believe wedding vows should be completely overhauled and revised
Like you said, the original purpose of a marital contract was for financial purposes to bring together a man & woman who couldn't stand each other and the introduction of "marriage for love" is a recent development
Meaning that signing a contract for 2 people who truly love each other no longer makes sense or is logical because you shouldn't need a piece of paper to prove your love to someone!! !
It feels manipulative...
Sorry for the late reply. I got triggered by a friend and went into hiding for a few weeks.
I agree with this so much. I've seen so many good people get hurt because the person they married wasn't who they thought they were. And the kids always get hurt when parents are stuck together. Rich people or poor, you shouldn't have to gamble your life away for a dream. Just build the dream and have milestone celebrations every time you reach a goal.
But even without marriage, relationships are getting shorter and shorter. I think maybe having access to everyone on the planet at our fingertips is making everyone a bit opportunity-crazy. And that's where my burnout began. I want to talk to people and hear their stories. Apparently, that isn't a thing anymore. "Just post a happy pic for likes like a good girl, Lily. Nobody wants to know anything about you, sucka, except what your cat did, what meme you like, or what you had for dinner." I have never felt apathy quite so acutely as I do now that everyone is talking and saying nothing at all.
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