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date me but u have to come here first .
or .... living in San Francisco is a nice idea too , i pretend to love you and you fall for me , we get married after that so I get an American nationality and then I dump u muhahahahah

nah....I know that I am kinda jerk but not that much.

ive randomly met many men who seem to love to pick me up and then set me down as they please without so much as telling me... so i walk away on my own.

ive had 5 longterm relationships... averaging 3yrs per. though it's been since before summer of 06 that i had my last relationship.

I think I'll pass on this one.

yeah even though I am simply 18-I still beleive I am just too, strange, to really get with anyone
I can't see myself in a real relationship
I just don't think it would ever work
as much as I want someone I don't think I will get someone
and before all of you rush all over this
I am starting to come to terms with it

Come on now, it can't be that bad. Don't you believe you have a lot to give in a relationship? That your unique viewpoints and caring nature is something special that you can give to someone?

Have you even tried a relationship?

Saying, who could possibly be in a relationship with me, is a sort of self fulfilling prophecy. If you truly believe this about yourself, then only by sheer luck will you be in a relationship.

Turn your strangeness into something appealing. Do you like your strange nature? If you genuinely like the way you act... then why won't someone else?

I have had two serious relationships (not counting briefs or flings).

The first I met in highschool. We dated on and off (as highschool relationships go) got engaged when I was 18. Broke it off, and did not talk for two years. After that, she called, and we ended up together for about five years (married for about three). Eventually, she left.

The second has just started. I have met her at a local group for aspies. The meetings are held at a Denny's. After the meeting was over at 21.00, we stayed and talked over every random topic under the sun until 02.00. I asked her for her phone number, and she gave it to me. This has been going on for several weeks now. However, I already feel as if I had known her for at least six months. *Keeps fingers crossed.*

Eire,

I now how you feel. I haven't had a relationship in years, and only one in my life. I've recently returned to college and I think that is where tons and tons of people meet. I see it all the time in my classes. It appears to be easier to talk to people there because you have automatic common ground and something to talk about. I was shocked when a girl who usually sits a few rows in front of me in a huge lecture hall decided to sit directly in front of me one day because she wanted to review with someone before a quiz. We still talk before and after every class. I nomally wouldn't know what to say to her, but since its in a class I ask her about the assignments (or should I say I mostly help her with hers) or I ask about her major and so on. If you're desperate for a social circle, I don't have that need but apparently some do, then I recommend taking a college class somewhere if you don't already. People just seem to naturally talk to the people sitting around them. You might end up meeting some cool people.

Just a thought, good luck. You seem like a cutie so I'm sure some alpha-male with snatch you up sooner or later!! !

I met my current husband on AmericanSingles. I had thought I would never get married again, but then I met this guy online playing bingo. We chatted and I thought I fell in love with him during that 30-day period that we chatted continuously, but then on day 30 he suddenly became an *sshole.

So I decided that maybe love wasn't over after all. I put a profile up on American Singles and stated that I was looking for someone around my age (44 at that time), within 10 lbs. of ideal body weight, be 6' or taller (the guy I had met playing bingo had been 6'4"), either cancer, pisces, virgo or 'scorpio, and must have ADHD. (This was just shortly before I figured out that I had Asperger's.) I figured it would take a while to find someone fitting those criteria. That was okay because my law practice had gone into the toilet after my divorce a year prior.

Guys wrote to me that would ask, "What's ADHD?" I didn't really want to have to educate anyone on what ADHD was, and if they had to ask, they probably didn't have it. I wanted someone with ADHD because then that person would be understanding of why I lock my keys in the car 10 times a day. Since I had recently figured out that people with ADHD usually have a high IQ, I changed that part of the profile that said "Must have ADHD" to "Must have IQ of 150 or higher."

It's not that I think I'm so smart. I'm actually a ditz except for when I'm in court. I don't know why this is so. But I figured that if the guy had a high IQ, he would probably have ADHD.

So many guys contacted me and belittled me for thinking I was so smart that I required a guy to have a high IQ of 150 or better. On day 12, this one guy wrote to me to "gently" chide me for requiring a 150 IQ. However, at least he was nice about it. It turned out that his son had been diagnosed ADHD when younger, so he had a good understanding of it.

He was diagnosed himself after I accused him of having ADD, too. Although, he had it without the hyper part. That was pretty funny. He went in to be tested only to prove me wrong, but I was proved right.

He fit all the criteria. He was a pisces, 6' tall, 175 lbs., a year older than me, and ADD. For two years I commuted once a month to Texas from California to see him. He was an engineer when I met him, and he was getting bored with his career. So I decided to become really successful and entice him to CA with money. He didn't want to leave TX, and I don't blame him. People are nicer in TX than they are in So. Cal. But I have two kids in Orange County, and I couldn't leave.

I became pretty successful and had to start skipping visits to TX. So he flew to CA after 2 years of me going to TX, married me, and then went home and packed up. He runs my law office and has been for 2 years now.

Sorry if this was long and boring. I love the way I met him.

I met my wife over the internet, back when the Yahoo personals were free. She was the first person I really dated, and amazingly, we really clicked. (I click with very few people.) So, 11 months later, we got married. It was a lot of good and a lot of bad -- in the end, way too much bad, so we divorced after 2 years. I don't regret marrying her, though.

Eire,

Do you mean when my wife and I met?

I had my interview with her on Valentine's Day that year. It was a Tuesday.

Exactly one week later, I reported to my new job with her company. It was a Tuesday.

For about 2 months (during that same time she broke off from her lover) we worked side by side and we always were chatting-up and well.. getting to know each other very well. I'm not normally one who is into dipping his pen in company ink, butt...

Too many details to mention here, butt...

On a Tuesday afternoon the barrior of a professional relationship between employee and employer came down. She wanted it, I had it... okay... O... M... F... G...

You have a right to be suspicious.

I shagged her, I shagged her rotten.

We were in love. Neither of us could deny it. You have to experience the feeling to really be able to relate. The experience is rapturous, that's the best I can tell you.

Well the marriage failed after over 6 years together, butt , you know what? We are better friends now than we ever were during the marriage. We both know that we could never be an item again butt as long as neither side has anything final from playing the dating game, well then...

Shall we shag now, or shag later?