why do guys (NT) want girls to be pretty?

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Most men, including us aspies want girls to be pretty. Even though we're aspies, we're no more than humans (technically and biologically all humans are only intelligent apes), and love happens instinctively rather than systematically. The reason why we want girls to be attractive can be explained rationally, of course...

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I don't care either way. But hey, I'm different.

Agreed entirely. I naturally gravitate to good looking people. The better looking they are, the more I'll hang around with them. I actively seek out attractive, intelligent people in a crowd. Even on social networking sites, when I browse for potential friends, I skim through the presented pictures and click on the best looking person I can find. You'll find that I only ever associate with good looking, intelligent individuals, tortured geniuses and those that fit into cliques because I need a feel a part of something, to find tranquility and a sense of community with like-minded individuals.


If, like me, you happen to possess a valuable Irish-Italian heritage you aren't going to waste your precious genes on any old partner. You're naturally going to seek one of equal good fortune, it's only natural.

Does this make me a eugenicist? Perhaps it does, it's just my preference.

Indeed, when I was going to the bars I would try my damdest, on rair occasion succeeding in talking to an attractive women, often tho, I knew her from high school, so I was not meeting someone new. The result in the end was always the same, im sure she thought it was nice to see someone from her school days and possibly an old friend but never would I have a real chance.

Looks are alright, but now I search for other qualities, primarily someone dependible, halfway intelligent and concerned about the future and probably wanting to talk about planning it out with me. Unforunatly most my age dont think like this, its hard, I have a girlfriend currently, but our relationship is strained, its my first relationship in all 25 years and I suck at it, at the same time, I am finding more the girl I am with is really the opposite of what I am really looking for in a potential future mate, BLAH BLAH BLAH>>...

Up until about a year until ago I can pretty much say that I didn't care about anything else besides how a girl looks like.

Now I have become much more "open minded."

I think its simply because in the society I live in(USA-Michigan); girls are suppose to be good looking and having a girlfriend/wife that isn't good looking when you are younger means that you are a failure(quite literally).

So, guys are going to pass by girls who they don't consider attractive. It's is the same way for girls too so the problem goes both ways. If only people would realize that there is more to life than just what is on the surface.

Of course I realized the flaw in my logic and now I no longer live in that world.

hee, hee, hee, hee, hee

What is considered sexually attractive, or "hot", does vary from country to country.

In Tonga, in the South Pacific, the guys really like fat women. "Fo'i Gnako", which means a round ball of fat, is considered a compliment when directed at a woman. They really don't like thin women.

You can take an American woman who is so fat that she would not be able to get a date to save her life in the USA, put her down in Tonga, and she will end up marrying a big, muscular rugby player.

In many East Asian countries, there is a preference for women who are heavier set than average (where most of the body types are naturally small and slim), a long nose (where a lot of the noses are flat), pale skin (especially where a lot of the skin tones are naturally dark), and round eyes (where eyes are naturally slanted). So, folks of European descent typically have little trouble in many of these countries. A lot of the women try to gain weight, get plastic surgery to make the noses longer and to remove eyelid folds, and will use makeup to make the skin appear paler.

It has been remarked that a lot of the Chinese and Korean women who marry Whites are considered unattractive in their own countries (whereas they are regarded as knock-outs in the USA or Europe). And, a lot of the Whites who marry Asian women are considered highly attractive in Asia (but unattractive in their own countries). So, it winds up being a happy match (at least based on the extremely superficial level of attractiveness).

In countries where a lot of people can't afford a lot of food, being fat is a sign of wealth.

In the USA, where food is plentiful, being fat is a sign of poverty, of only being able to afford cheap food (like twinkies), and of not being able to afford a gym membership.

You are joking aren't you???? That's awful!

I seem to remember some film or TV show (I never watched it--only read about it) about a pretty model who made herself appear fat and ugly for a day in the city, just to see what would happen. Apparently she did not receive all of the pleasant attention that she had been accustomed to receiving.

It certainly goes to show how much "lookism" is rampant in our society. I also read where well dressed and attractive people get better service in shops.

It's not exclusively something that NT guys want. It's just natural for any guy that's heterosexual.

supposedly good looks convey good genes..........

Good genes are only an issue if you are interested in reproducing. Even homosexuals may prefer partners that are good looking, but whether this good looking person has good genes is irrelevant.

Guys are just fussy. No guy would date me 'cause I'm unatractive.

Guys want to be able to control their women, in a physical way.

Some generalizations going on.

I've known "normal" men who think like I do, so it ain't just an autistic thing; looks don't do much for those who prefer ideals/ideas, those subjective two are rarer than the "perfect" physical painting. The latter is everywhere you look.

I do admit, I'm biased, as the mind is the mate [to me], the body is just an extension of such; I'm just the other side of the coin (I'm just as...selective as those who see the body over the mind).