How well do you do with "just friends"?

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The guys I dated online wanted to be friends with me after we broke up, but I refused. I don't want to be friends with someone who broke my heart! This explains why I'm so nasty towards Anubis.

I'm one of those people who get told "I'm too good for girls", which explains why I'm just friends with everyone, and that no one seem to show interest in me. One of the reasons why I just don't bother with relationsips, because if I try too much, I'll just hurt myself, so I find personally it's just easier to give up.

As for after breaking up though, I've been fine with the "just friends". I don't get to see them often, but we still talk because there aren't any hard feelings between us. It all depends on the personality of people that determines how "just friends" will work.

I wouldn't want to be "just friends" with somebody who broke my heart either. It would be hypocritical. I'd rather just not have anything more to do with them for a long time.

Yeah, it's working pretty well sometimes. Sometimes things happen that really make me wonder, but considering trying to make something of it would most likely only lead to drama, I won't risk it, because I'm the happiest I've ever been with our relationship.

If I were dating, I would take that for now. I have other objectives I need to meet first to transition into anything serious.

If I have feelings for her and she says "just friends" i have no problems adapting to that. I prefer she just comes out and says that rather than dodge it or use a "boyfriend" (whether said boyfriend exists or not)

The only time it annoys me is if she flirts with me first (meaning she's the one who initiated contact), only to pull away when I actually start responding.

I had one girl I was crazy about when I was in the Army. I would walk into town from Ft. Bragg to see her.
I knew her mom too.

We'd hang out, go to movies (saw Grease at the drive-in), her old high school's baseball games, etc.
One day she told me, quite nicely, that she really enjoyed being with me... I WAS JUST LIKE A BROTHER!

That hit me like a ton of bricks!

I remained her friend though. She went on to marry and have kids before I even found a new girlfriend (this was after I got out of the military and was back home in Texas). We haven't stayed in touch though.

sometimes these relationships are the best to have...as much as they can sometimes hurt and be confusing, they are probably the most rewarding too.
i'm glad that you have been able to accept the relationship on the level that it is and are finding happiness with it.

I sometimes turn to my ex-girlfriend for advice, she knows what I am like and is keen to help me get along. The reason she is my ex is mostly due to my not knowing the correct timing of what I am supposed to say, and she found it quite hard to deal with someone who, although could commit, would not be "there" for things, would not be very good at getting too close, show much empathy. I understand that completely. It was what it was, and you can not stay upset at someone forever. I thank Neccessitas for sending her in my general direction and asking me out in the first place.

I've only ever been in one relationship. After we broke up, I tried to remain friends at first, but we had nothing to say to one another, we had become strangers to one another over the years. I completely lost touch with her and don't regret it - there was nothing left to salvage.
With other girls, I'm tired of the 'friends' zone' - my experience is that friendship is not real, it's not something to be taken seriously. You may think I'm a jerk for not being interested in 'just friends,' but I'm not interested in friendship with guys, either (in fact I never seek male company, as I don't believe in friendship anymore there's nothing male company has to offer). I simply don't know how to go about starting a relationship in a way other than starting as friends (which is really an abstract theoretical problem, since there are no girls I know in my area that I'm interested in and are not very much taken for the long haul).

Same here.

Same here. But I "hate" the friend-zone where it's impossible to get back into dating.

I know!! ! I hate it when girls spare my feelings constantly. They think that they can't be honest with me because I'm gentle, so they use the boyfriend excuse or say that they just want to be friends. It's much more insulting than actually being flat-out rejected. As for the flirting with you and pulling away after you respond...it's called playing hard to get.

This is exactly how I felt after my last girlfriend dumped me. I didn't want to be friends with her either. I'm pretty sure I still don't. This is just like that first episode of Berserk where Guts gets angry with Griffith. "Lousy son of a b***h. Acting so friendly after you stabbed me!?!??! !?" Anime fans will know what I mean.