Look at this, you ungrateful lot!

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The realities of the mainstream dating scene are complete scrap, we all know that, we've all heard Dave DeAngelo, Stylez, and the like. We know they're, for sadly the majority what they're saying is dead aim. The trick is whether the person they're telling you to project is part of your natural personality - ie. is it part of you that you'd have fun projecting, would be able to project from an honest place in your heart to where you wouldn't be deviating so far from your true self that it would just be a facade. David D said it and I agree, they can tell a put on from a mile away so, being your not too different from myself and prefer sincerity - I think it would really blow up in your face unless you really had fun doing it and knew how to be really at peace with it.

For me it can't be just because that sort of thing is so much of a drain and so tiring that I wouldn't even want her once I got her - the maintenance on that one would just be a complete nightmare. Not that I can't be a fun or very funny guy at times IRL, just that I am an introvert and sometimes its me sometimes its not. I still prefer quality over quantity relationships and I really like my freedom so I'd never want some girl who's real dependent or jealous - that would be far worse than just being single. That said if I'm living like David D before he did his studying up on psychology and figuring this out, if I'm solely living on hope that I'll have 'luck' and the right girl will see me at the right time when I'm showing the right flare - so be it.

This is an excellent video with tons of great advice.

And notice how spending money on women is never mentioned? That's because spending money on women is a sure sign of low status, it's showing that you literally need to pay for her company!

This isn't about conning people, it's about finding the ability to display your inner qualities in a way that's palatable to women.

If you wanted to be understood by someone from China, wouldn't it make sense to learn Chinese? What's amoral or deceptive about that? There's a difference between learning to speak Chinese and pretending to be Chinese.

I think the first step is not to worry about what women like, but more about what the one woman you're interested in likes...

there's no one thing that will work with all women. I think a big thing is to just pay attention... I'm sure varying women want attention in varying amounts, but a goodly number of them want attention of some sort.

every social interaction is different, and it would be a big help to us all if there was a magic rulebook, but there isn't. Take it slow, but realize at some point you have to take a risk and make a move of some sort (that sort of thing stymied me for years..

Taking a look at this video though, there's a few things I've done lately even that I hadn't even thought of in the immediate sense as trying to show flare but I'm starting to understand my own underlying psychology.

On example, there's a chain restaurant, a bar and steakhouse, that actually serves Lucky Charms on the menu. My friends had mentioned that to me and one of our other friends just had to order it because - it was just weird and different. I went out with a whole group of friends to that bar, like the usual time 10 to 2 AM, and around 12:00 when they were closing the kitchen I was still kinda hungry and I thought "Hey, I'll order some Lucky Charms"; so there I was sitting at the bar, while everyone else is drinking, with a huge bowl of cereal and milk. And the funniest thing was I felt like pimp s--- eating cereal at the bar, I knew it work out like that just because it shows a bit of guts and "whatever, I don't care if its a bar - I feel like some Lucky Charms right now"; and yeah, all our female friends were tripping out about it and wanted to get pictures with me and the cereal. I think people get a real positive laugh out of that kind of thing and I think that was part of why I did it - partly to amuse myself and partly just to draw some attention because I'm not really the most chatty guy out there half the time.

Another thing with groups, yeah, I've always been one to want to talk to the group in general first - partly because if I am interested in the girl and especially if there are guys in the group I'd rather know if she's x's girfriend; if they're cool and I have fun talking to them all, its no loss even just because if they take to me on even just a friendship level, they have friends as well so in effect its just a good practice of social networking. Though my only problem, of course, if they are single I'll have a hell of a time actually breaking the red tape - I tend to do terribly at initiating which is probably why I try to throw every other possible circumstantial tangent at the situation to hint at it without directly saying anything.

I took a quick peek at the very beginning of the video. And was immediately put off by that comment about "the bedroom." 90% of the guys I have met in life, have been a huge disappointment to me, because of trying to put the bedroom first. I found it alienating, and insulting. They didn't care about me, as an individual. They just viewed me as an opportunity to get "some action."

You don't speak for all of us.