I don't belive anyone with AT/AS has gotten married

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Actually, Chav, the Accent is the least expensive vehicle offered by Hyundai. Car values in the US tend to start around $10k, and range upward from there (sometimes wildly - my dream car, the Tesla Roadster, is expected to debut in the neighborhood of $125K). My particular car came in at just over $12k, as it includes a rear window wiper and a car alarm (could have had that removed, but it would have taken time, and after the hood came off my '94 Geo Metro on the freeway, I needed another car fast!).

So yeah, if you're thinking I dazzled H with my personal wealth, um, not so much, really...

I was married to an NT for 12 years.

there are about 5 reasons why I will never get married (in descending order):
-Being atheist : I am atheist and I live in a very religious country, no religious girl would stand me and I won't be able to stand the very religious people.
-My autism:I don't know how to communicate with people face-to-face.
-My bitter view: I see the world with a very biological/realistic view,every human behavior has an evolutionary purposes. Magical words like Love and soulmate are no more than chemical reactions in the brain. I even believe that a great part of every human's history is written on his own DNA. Marriage is just an artificial bond which is against the natural selection rules.
-My shortness:My height is 163 cm which makes me very short , studies show that short men have very seldom romance in their lives.
-My looks: I am not ugly but I don't have masculine looks,I look weak. Biologically,I am born as an omega male.


My only chance is to get wealth ...but I might end up like Scrooge MCduck afterall except the 3 ghosts part since there's no ghosts.

LePetitPrince, you're confusing cultural standards with biology (not uncommon, especially if you swallowed Skinner's behaviorist claptrap).

For instance, as regards your appearance: In medieval Europe (and most of the rest of the world, for that matter), being a fat slob could be a turn-on. It told available women that you were wealthy enough to eat like that, and not to have to work for it. Skinny guys with big muscles (who would be thought of as handsome, or even macho, today) were poor peasants, who worked hard and got barely enough to eat.

Same holds for the bit about short guys. It depends largely on your attitude. Don't believe me? Ask Harlan Ellison.

And what in the name of Richard Dawkins does atheism have to do with getting married? Is that a Lebanese thing? Because I can assure you that in the US at least, if the happy couple doesn't want religion involved in their relationship, it isn't.

ProtossX, no, I really think its the particular personality of the person who has AS. Its not even a matter of whether your doing well or not with managing your AS because its still just a matter of what you look like vs. the personality you project and either how congruently those two things flow together, how artistically those things flow together, whether or not you seem like the type of guy that she would think needs her (some women like that in a guy because they have that fear of being left or unneeded topping their list of concerns), or just as likely there are plenty of atypical NTs out there. The psychologically hard part of that to handle is the fact that its something you really can't control your odds with - either you have that sort of AS alignment where your traits make you desirable or they don't. How much of a winner or loser you in the scheme of things also seems to have little or nothing to do with it.

And another part of it is how well your personality, wants, and desires flow with natural law. If you flow with natural law well, you're fine. If you butt heads with natural law a lot - things tend to not work out as well.

I must be the guy that married 2 different NT's (not at the same time... It's a strain, but we've managed not to kill each other over the years...

It can be done, but it takes the patience of a saint (on their part). We're still figuring all this out. Film at 11...

I got married to a NT but she suckered me into it.

She made a nice living and was outgoing. I was a poor student.
You need to put yourself out there and take your bumps and bruises along
the way if that is what you want. My dating life has always been virtually non-existant.
I don't know the first thing about dating and I am not a kid anymore, but I have managed to have
a handful of stable long-term relationships. It can be done. Find people that share your
interests and make yourself open to their opinion on things. You don't necessarily have
to be great looking, charismatic, or funny, but you should not take yourself too seriously
and attempt to present yourself in your best light.