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14 Jan 2008, 10:04 am

Women used to make passes at me all the time in high school...

but then again, I was the only person who actually knew anything in the class...

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14 Jan 2008, 1:06 pm

I definitely don't mind if a woman asks me out. The only problem I have with it is that in the past, the women that have asked me out ended up holding it against me in the future. It seems like in the back of their minds, they don't full respect me because I didn't make the first move.

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14 Jan 2008, 1:32 pm

I never got this big deal over who makes the first move. If there is chemistry doesn't it sometimes just happen. It is pretty scary regardless of who does it.

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14 Jan 2008, 4:55 pm

Ladygirl wrote:

I fall in love, mercilessly, with so many people, but from afar. It's nauseating to try to find the courage to say hello to a stranger, especially one that I have a crush on. It's probably vain and shallow to become so interested in a person from merely sight but I've never denied the pleasure I find in "good" aesthetic.

I know exactally what you mean there...

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I am a girl. I am "supposed" to be pursued and surely must be desperate if I was to pursue. It's disheartening to think that if, by some chance, I was able to "make the first move" I'd have not only social ineptitudes against me, but also some social connotation that I'm desperate.

I don't think you'd be immediately labled desperate, it would depend on (1) if you did it with every guy you saw/met & (2) if you threw yourself at him or just (casualy) asked.

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Aspie female to aspie male (or NT, or whatever): Do you find yourself more understanding of a female that wants to break the (dating) rules because they're difficult for you to follow as well? Would you rather me not break the rules to attain some normalicy in an otherwise un-normal life?

I personally would love it if I were approached - it's how most of my encounters happen - and I'm sure most others would too, particularly if that's you in your avatar picture!

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14 Jan 2008, 6:12 pm

I'm surprised that in today's society where supposedly men and women are "equal", men are still expected to make the first move. I'm sure most of us would love if women made the first move once in a while. I sure would...

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14 Jan 2008, 6:12 pm

if he finds you attractive he 'll take the opportunity immediately , many guys I know dream abt such rare opportunity.

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