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ORLY? Why is that?..............SERIOUSLY.
If it were as EASY as the suggestions that you gave I wouldnt have even bothered starting this f*****g thread.
Doesnt EVERYONE wanna make more money?! Going out with the INTENTION of looking to hook up is something I have
tried and that REALLY doesnt work. Online dating has worked in meeting people but I met someone in January-didnt go well-and now the fish arent biting(so-to-speak). I do not have the ability to detect attraction to me on behalf of a female stranger UNLESS she actually bothers to talk to me first or does something REALLY obvious.

Being single or not is uncontrollable , it is determined by 3 uncontrollable elements:

-Your genes
-Your career opportunities (can be controllable to some extent but they also depends greatly on where you live and where you were raised and your education opportunities)
-Your luck

I can kinda understand what the OP is saying.
Most things in life, you put enough time, effort and determination in and you can expect to meet with at least some success. You want to get rich, have a great job, run a marathon, learn to play an instrument, learn a foreign language - it may be hard, but you put enough work in and eventually you get there.

With relationships, you could work so, so hard at it and still end up alone.

This is why I tend to focus my attentions on things like work and my interests and hope they'll lead me in the path of someone interesting.

I don't understand what making money has got to do with it. Obviously girls like it if you've got a job/ambition but I've never dated a boy based on the size of his wallet- I mean, am I meant to check his bank statements?

Not everybody on online dating can be shallow surely? At least you can vet if they have similar interests and then build up a rapport over email which may be easier for you if you're not confident.

In terms of going out, the joining clubs thing is a good idea but maybe not practical time wise? Make sure you go out regularly with your buddies and their friends, build up the circle of friends etc. People often get with friends of friends.

Just be positive, laid back and smiley, girls like that!

The trick is to put yourself in a place where there are people who you're likely to be interested in, on a regular basis, but do it for yourself. Learn an instrument, but do it in a music store. Volunteer somewhere you're interested in helping, etc. Bars are bad for me. I know I either appear like a bar-fly (sitting in a corner, alone, seemingly engrossed in my alcohol (how do they know it's soda?!?)), or way too desperate (checking everything that's (hopefully) female). Or both. Online dating is really good, but I look at it like practice. I can see what works and what doesn't, and be like "Oh, hell, I should NOT have said THAT!", or whatever.