Told someone I was interested in that she is a hypocrite

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I agree. If me and her was going out as a romantic couple, I'd have no problem paying for everything. But her constent nagging gets old real fast. If i do stay friends with her, there are going to be some changing that I need to lay out for us.

I'm so glad to hear that you've met someone, Ken!

If she tells you that if you do those things, then you'll be better off, then she's not a hypocrite. If she's telling you that all diabetics should do those things, but she's not, then technically she's being hypocritical, but I wouldn't worry about it.

I wish I could meet someone...

I'm going to tell her that some things need to change if we are to be friends:

1. whenever we go anyplace, we go dutch.

2. She needs to pay her own way to and from where she lives.

3. No physical contact, massage, ect.

4. No staying in same bed.

I'll be gentle and say I'll feel more comfortable with this. If she gets upset about it, then I know she was just using me to get off the island for a bit.

These are things that don't need to be said. I mean, if you go to eat, just let her know before leaving you don't have enough to pay hers, just so she's not stuck. If she tries inappropriate contact, just move away. She'll get the hint. It sounds like she's wanting the good bits and not the responsibility.

Hypocrite or not ....forget her anyways, you are diabetic and she is diabetic ....you want to have diabetic children and diabetic grandchildren? you want to spread more diabetic genes in humanity?
Pick a no-diabetic girl at least ...that's way you'll decrease the risk of having diabetic children and cause less suffer to the lives of many people in the future generations.

Well I've already made the choice not to have children. I've also taken care of it so I will know I will never have children.

^oh, in this case ... I drop my previous post.

Ken I hate to say this because it is a topic that is close to my heart. You really should take care of yourself. My son is a type one diabetic and I have already lost a cousin to the same thing when he was 29. Being diabetic is one of those things you have to deal with everyday of your life. She should know this too. I don't know enough about your relationship to make a call on how to deal with it, but I do know a lot (to much) about being diabetic and I'm hoping you decide to take care of yourself.

Ken, at the risk of saying a harsh truth - if you're taking the attitude going in of 'if we're going to be together, there's going to be some changes,' then can there actually be a future? You clearly don't like key noticeable things about this person about who they were. How would you feel if she said 'I'll go out with you, but only if you change the way you dress and the music you listen to.'

Better yet, how would you feel if her opening gambit was 'I'll go out with you, but this autism crap is getting old.'

For god's sake, this isn't a thread for your eugenic grandstanding. I chose to stop reading your thread because of my disagreements but bringing it elsewhere makes it impossible to avoid.

Uh, what? Just because you pay for her meal means that she now owes it to you to be your girl-friend????

I've read the rest of the thread and I'm glad you're laying down the law. But the attitude in your first post still kind of worried me.

FWIW, I agree with roguetech. There is no need to sit down and have a big conversation where you declare your 5 point plan about what will or will not happen in the future. Instead of that, just start acting the way you want to act without announcing it. If she calls you up and tells you she wants to come down there, just don't mention anything about paying her way. She'll get the idea.

Of course, be generous enough to not let her get stranded at a restaurant with no way to pay - let her know you plan on going dutch while you work out dinner plans.

I don't mind paying once and a while. But I have been paying for EVERY meal the last couple of times she has been over. Also paying for her air faire back home at 50 bucks a pop. It gets old real fast. Friends don't pay for other friends expenses all the time.

I'm also not demanding that she become my GF. I don't want her in my life anymore.

You sound bitter, but the choice to pay was completely within your control. Next time I recommend only paying for air-fair after the sexytime has happened.